to think that having all girls or all boys is not a duff option?

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I have two glorious daughters, and I am due a third baby end of summer. Many people I tell about the pg seem to assume that having a third daughter would be a disappointment. This seems really weird to me, and a bit offensive. Why do so many people think this? Especially when most grown-ups friends from "one of each" families that I know really wish they had grown up with a same-sex soulmate. I'm trying to think of a lighthearted one liner to head off the assumption. But anything I think of just sound like I am protesting too much. Really annoying. Is this one of those situations where you just have to recognise that some people are ignorant and ignore them?

I thought it would be and totally expected to have one of each as that is the set up in my own family. It took me a while to make my peace with having same gender children.

I have two DDs and it's awesome. Although sons would also have been awesome.

Still get stupid comments, usually sympathies for 'poor' DH. He loves having girls and just doesn't get the need to produce a son and heir. And that whole 'well done' to mums who manage to produce sons and daughters, like they did something clever to make it happen.

I have one dd (total diva) and two ds's. Could not have given the tiniest shit what sex they were. I also just wanted healthy babies and was blessed with them.

I have two boys and am expecting dc3. Everyone keeps saying that I must be hoping for a girl. The truth is, I am but I don't want to say it out loud so it makes the conversation really difficult for me.

Of course, I would love a boy too. The desire for a girl is just me. A boy would be lovely too and slot in straight with his brothers. Whenever I've asked the ds if they want a baby brother or sister, they always say brother!

Ignore them all.

I have 4 boys age 18 years to 18months and not one of them is duff!

Yes, I've had all the comments, hopping for a girl?, one last try for a girl? Etc - all the more galling as we were hoping in our heart of hearts that the third, then the 4th would be a girl (not that it matters REALLY).

That's all really helpful, thanks. DH also received commiserations from some people when DD2 arrived.

I have 3 boys and am desperate to prevent ds3 thinking he's only here because I wanted a girl. I get a lot of 'football team?' comments. I hate football!

I often wonder if people really mean comments like that, or if they are just searching for something to say?

I'm expecting DS2 in a few weeks and tres excited to have another little boy. My DS1 is an absolute joy (and as pretty as any girl) so another one the same would be the bees knees.

When I was pg I found myself thinking a girl would be a nice change - variety is the spice if life and all that - but now I'm looking forward to providing DS with a best buddy. There'll only be 16 mo between them so I'm hoping they'll be close growing up and not fight too much .

Also gives me an opportunity to really go to town buying DS some lovely clothes and toys etc as they can all get handed down to no 2. Result!

Some people are idiots! The only right response to any combination is "How wonderful!"

When I was (very) pg with DD a taxi driver asked me the sex and then proclaimed "Oh well, don't be too disappointed, there is always another chance"!!!!

just ignore i got this loads as we have 4 boys, no 5 is actually a girl so everyone assumed we had kept going until we got a girl, umm no we wanted 4, no 5 was a bit of a bonus baby and just happened to be a girl, some people even asked if we did anything different to ensure we got a girl

umm no as with the others we just had sex when we werent too tired and had the time and energy to do so!

"Hoping for kittens this time".

Really winds me up when people describe themselves as 'lucky' to have one of each. Implication being that it is unlucky to have same gender DCs! What?

I will always say 'well I consider myself lucky to have my 3 boys too!'.

Sssss brilliant to have all the same.

Hand me downs, going to the same clubs, all want to play the same games. I like it. A lot. They're like a gang.

That said, will be very glad when first girlfriend sits around the dinner table with us.

I love the fact that we're getting value for money out of handing things down twice. It always seems a shame to buy ds3 anything new because he'll be our only child to wear/use it!
Going to the same clubs - not in our house! I sent ds2 to football with ds1 and he decided he wanted to do ballet instead. Ds1 refuses to do ballet!

I had my third daughter last year, had a few comments mainly directed at my husband with a sympathetic tilt of the head but it didn't really bother me. Some people just feel the need to say something, anything and usually its the first cliche that pops into their head.

But it drives my Mum mad, my dad has had a few comments made to him about not having grandsons and he just ignores it or stops and stares for a really long time at whoever says it .

We kind of hoped DS2 would be a girl but once we found out he was not we were fine with it and still are, he's a gorgeous little boy the same as his big brother.