to have a cob on

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actually i know i am being unreasonable but i need to vent.
Me and DP have been trying for a baby. Last month i had a miscarriage, and everytime i think i might be ready to try again there is more spotting.
The girl i share an office with is pg and about to go on maternity leave. I am delighted for her but today her and her also heavily pg friend spent half an hour chatting about pregnancy and babies and felt .
Then i felt shit for having a cob on about it and think i'm just a horrible person really.
It's just everywhere i look i am surrounded by babies or pg women, and it reminds me of what i have lost. and this week i got a letter from hospital about my maternity appointments.
don't even get me started on women on jeremy kyle or such trash tv that seem to reproduce at the drop of a hat and then not care about their children.

YANBU, you can't help how you feel. You have been through a horrible loss and I can't begin to imagine how someone would cope with something like that.

Vent away and I hope things work out for you.

YANBU ,they should have had a little more compassion towards you after your sad loss. Good luck for the future.

Yanbu - I also had to sit through pregnancy when mc (in fact more than once). I think the anger/jealousy is something you just have to go with as it's part of the grief curve.

All the best ttc (I have 2 dd now but 3 mc and lost a pregnancy at 21 weeks so don't be put off).

Not at all unreasonable. I had exactly the same thing, I posted about it back in January, and I still feel and a bit grrr about it.

The girl at my work was seven years younger than me, knew I was TTCing, knew I had had an MC, had had an MC herself....and still she would proceed to talk to the girl the otherside of me - so I would literally be in the middle, hunched forward, headphones on - abut being pregnant, babies, etc.

I don't think the whole world should shut down about the subject just because people struggle to conceive or have miscarriages. But I do think those that know you could implement a bit of sensitivity, a bit of consideration. I often wondered - why didn't they just go to the coffee area...why talk around me about these things, and it did hurt me.

She's currently on maternity leave, I'm pregnant, all should be well but we were very close and now I just struggle to think of her fondly because it hurt my feelings so much.

redshoes - same in my area.

OP, YANBU at all, sometimes life is shit - I had several mc, first one was pretty awful, went for 13 wk scan and baby had died a few days before... had been going to tell family that day - sil announced her preg the very next day, baby due the same week, her dd will always be a painful reminder of our loss, and we just kept it to ourselves as we couldn't face raining on their parade.

Sometimes we just have to deal with these sad things and hope we are the ones with the happy ending next time (we did get our happy ending), but it's not easy is it ?

I went through this too. Plastering a smile on your face when all you want to do is put your fingers in your ears going 'la la la, I can't hear you' like a loon.

A 'cob' round here means a bread roll

YANBU. Good luck ttc.