to be surprised to see this in our cosy little local gift shop?

[Clawdy]

Local high street has a nice little giftshop that sells candles,scarves,pottery etc. Passed by this morning to see the new window display prominently featured a couple of "quirky" posters,one of which said "If a lady says no,she means perhaps. If she says perhaps,she means yes. If she says yes,she ain't no lady!" Am I being a bit over-sensitive to find it inappropriate?

YANBU. It's horrible.

YANBU that's horrible!

What the actual jeff?

WTF is the point of trying to explain that no means no when stupid things like this perpetuate a myth that actually women probably mean something else and it's therefore okay to have sex with them?

Oh and if they do consent to sex then they're just slags. Brilliant.

I don't suppose most rape victims would find it very funny.

Definitely not over-sensitive!

It's vile....and I am pretty laid back about most things! talk about trivialise a really important matter.....I would be in there asking them to take it down!

Yes, I think you should go in there and tell them exactly why that's not the sort of image they should want to be promoting, and to take it down. I'd march in there in a heartbeat.

Isnt that the "joke" about the lady and the diplomat?

Either way, its not fucking funny. If you can, get in there and tell them take it down. Otherwise a letter maybe?

Horrible. I'd go in and loudly point out the error of their ways. Not in any way shape or form is this remotely funny.

Was wondering if it was a quote or "joke" Mordecai. Feel as if I might go in tomorrow and say something now. Wonder what the response would be? Oddly,the owner is a mum in her thirties.

God that is vile.

I'd go and say something.

And who on earth would buy this poster??

I can't believe someone sat in an office somewhere and thought 'Hey, I've got a great idea for another poster. I'll design one that trivialises rape and implies consenting women are sluts.'

If they won't remove it, report to the local paper, and pose for a 'Disgusted Local Resident' photo for the front page. That's truly, truly vile.

Have you spoken to them about it?

That is horrible!

I suppose they think it's 'just' a bit of old-fashioned sexism ('just' ). I hope they're mortified when they realize that, to most of us, it immediately reads as a rape myth.

Went in this morning and had word with the assistant. Oddly enough the entire shop is owned and staffed by women. Another customer was listening and she agreed with me,as did the assistant when she looked at it. She removed it at once. Result!

If you read it in context to perhaps shopping or eating cake etc is could be humourous but as a stand alone sign which could refer to anything then it's pretty out of order imo and like other posters have said, gives out the wrong message.

Good for you for actually speaking to them about it! I am glad they listened to you.

Well done Clawdy.