dd2 has a friend who she's been making and breaking friends with over the past five years. (going to middle school in September and I've asked they are not in the same class)
To cut a very long story short,my dd is always complaining about issues with this girl. But one minute they're friends and the next minute not. Today she came home upset because this girl said she'd only play with my dd if another girl was excluded (which my dd refused to do because she likes this girl and didn't want to exclude anyone) and was making up mean songs about her etc.. they're 9.
On many many occasions in the past, when they've fallen out, the Mother of this girl has emailed or phoned me to ask what's going on and basically accuse my dd - (very daft, very trivial. And if I phoned her every time my dd has been on receiving end, I'd have a very long phone bill).. I recently had a conversation with someone who had no clue about the trouble I'm having with this super involved Mother. She brought up the subject by asking if I'd ever had problems with this girl because her daughter has, and then saying that she'd had issues with the Mother (same as mine, constant calls etc)and had had to back off.
So anyway, after yet another text from her saying she needed to speak to me immediately (same old shit), I did let rip and tell her I was sick of it, and the phone calls (often slagging off other peoples kids) had to stop. And I told her that my dd had complained frequently about hers, but I'd dealt with it, and didn't feel the need to phone or text her every time this sort of thing occurred. She was a bit pissy, but I had got to the very very end of my tether with her.
And I suspect that part of the problem (with her daughters behaviour) is that she knows her Mother thinks she's sweetness and light and never puts a foot wrong. In conversations, she's never really conceded that her dd might be at fault. Did I do the right thing telling her to back off?