To think this woman was rude?

[FidoAndHisBone]

This happened a few years ago but I still feel a bit when I think about it...

I was 26 at the time and doing a full time college course. There was another woman on the course who spoke about a husband in the past but now said she was single.

One day we were alone in a classroom and I asked her if she was divorced, she gave me a filthy look and snapped that that was a personal question. I was mortified and quickly apologised explaining that I had recently been divorced myself.

Was I BU or was she?

Dude. You seriously need to get a hobby.

Widowed?

Er.. what? This was a few years ago and you're still thinking about it? Move on!

Perhaps she'd murdered him and buried the body in the back garden. Sounds like a guilty conscience to me

You have been thinking about this for a few years?

Snapping at people is rude. But people snap at each other for various reasons all the time. Move on.

eh??

Yes I think it was a very personal question but you need to let it go now.

It's a slow news day on MN obviously.

I would love to have that as one of my worries, move on !!

It's not something I ponder on a regular basis, I just always flt a bit confused by her reaction tis all, sorry bit bored this evening!

Yes, no, maybe, does it matter?

I'm presuming you never found out if she was divorced, widowed, or still technically married but separated.

Well, why did you assume she was divorced? He could've died and it might still be all very painful for her. Or he might've run off with a girl half his age and she might not want to talk about it as she clearly demonstrated.

Yes, it was a very personal question (speaking as a widow who's been asked the same). But it was a long time ago that you made the mistake so I'm sure there's no reason to worry about it now.

Obviously the main concern is how are you going to tell your grown-up children that they will never be able to ask personal questions when on a course in another country, OP?

And you thought she was rude

that's another poster isn't it brux?

Fuck me it's Basil Exposition!

Jesus Christ love, u r hurt by a chance remark 3 years ago and u now join mumsnet aibu!!!!

Babe go now while u still can....