To get annoyed at TA calling DD silly names?

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This has been going on for a little while. One TA in my DD nursery, who my daughter is already a little wary of, likes to address my child all the time as 'Dosey or nosey' as these words rhyme with her name.

So every time I drop her off or collect her and she is on duty for calling out the childrens names she insists on calling out to her Dosey Rosie, mummy's here etc. I know it's not meant in a menacing way however I do believe that it is unprofessional, not a very positive or respectful way to address a 4 year old. Certainly none of the other teachers, assistants or nursery nurses use this kind of patronising language.

Am i being unreasonable to think it's a bit ridiculing, patronising, negative and basically unnecessary?

Anyone else experienced something similar?

YANBU, have a word with the nursery?

I wouldn't be impressed with that either. I'd have a quiet word.

Er, no, of course yunbu! Definitely have a quiet word.

Not me being a paranoid over protective parent?

YANBU at all! I'd be having a word with nursery too if she were my child.

My dd's a Rosie too and although I sometimes call her Nosey Rosie (because she is very nosey) I don't think she'd like others calling her that too.
Just mention it.

That said I look after kids and call them daft names but nothing negative.

I would be raising it straight away.

RosiePosie would be different- I wouldn't like Dosey Rosie- does he use lots of other rhyming words or just not very nice ones?

I'm a rhymer too but I would try avoid any negative names. But I suspect she's not hearing the meaning, just the sound. I can imagine myself doing that.
Ask her not to. Or to find nice rhymes!

No, you're not being over protective - the TA needs pulling up on this, it's very rude. Children will take enough knocks in their life without having to put up with negative name associations at nursery ffs. In fact I feel angry on your behalf reading this.

It depends - is DD bothered by it?

It could just be affectionate nicknames. The staff did this is DDs nursery, there was a Fred Bread and Ben Ten. The kids did it to the staff too - DDs key worker was Amanda Panda! DDs name is difficult to rhyme with anything so she escaped!

Yes squishy I agree, and you kinda don't expect it from a so called professional school like environment. For one thing the TA is so loud the other children will definitely hear what she is saying, perhaps she has nick names for all the children, I don't know, however she's setting a terrible example for them and it wouldn't take much for one of them to copy her and start addressing my DD in the same manner.

No, it's rude.

Say something.

'It depends - is DD bothered by it?'

A 4 year old will just take whatever is dished out. It is not on to call any child you are caring for 'dosey' or 'nosey'.

Is it the negative associations with 'nosy' and 'dozy' that you don't like, or the fact she is given a nickname in general?

I quite often have affectionate names for the children in my class - but never disrespectful ones.

The TA shouldn't do that, it's not very nice is it? If it was a nice rhyme like Rosie Posy then that might be quite sweet but 'nosy' or 'dozy' isn't a nice thing to be called.

DD1's key worker in Pre-school used to call her Izzy Whizzy, which was fine as it made her laugh and it was said in an affectionate way.

YANBU

Buttsthatnotfair, not sure if she is bothered by it but she is very wary of said TA and she is quite a sensitive child, so possibly.
Haven't really discussed it with DD as did not want to make a big deal of it with her, instead wanted to get my head round it first.

Husband experienced it this morning as he dropped her off and was met by TA who came out with a lengthy sentence of negative names. the ones you listed do not seem to carry a negative connotation.

He had to have a word with her and she seemed quite shocked especially when he said that Dosey was more patronising than nosey. Think I might need to have a word with the nursery teacher.

Don't mind the idea of nick names, just not negative ones.

In that case, I'd just say to the teacher that you've over heard the TA calling DD 'noseyrosie' and 'doseyrosie' and that you're not very happy with it.

You shouldn't need to explain why you don't like it to the teacher, she will understand immediately (or at least I would). She might not have heard/registered the TA doing it.

It wouldn't be nice if the other children heard it and she ended up with the nickname "Dozy Rosie" for the rest of her school life.

For me it would be the negative associations of the nickname rather than a nick name itself.

Thanks for the feedback everyone, will be having a word with teacher.

If a parent complained of a TA using that NN to me, I'd agree with the parent.

In fact, if I heard a TA using that NN I'd speak to them before the parent came in. It is negative.

Nicknames can be lovely and make your child feel special and parents feel reassured that their child is 'loved' in school (it works on me anyway )

Your DD aside, the TA has no way of knowing if a child is being called names at home, and could be doing even more damage without realising it. Somebody should have a word with her; I think mentioning it to the teacher is a good idea.