AIBU or is DP?

[ProfCoxWouldGetIt]

Second AIBU post today....

DD was sent home from school last Wednesday with Chicken Pox, DP took her to the doctor on Friday who confirmed it and said to keep her away from people for 5 days.

DD's spots have almost cleared up completely (except for a few on her legs and bum - alothough they weren't widely spread to start off with) and DP wants to send DD to school on Wednesday this week, but I think it's too soon. I know he's bored of being stuck with DD indoors because of the bad weather, but I think it's irresponsible for him to pack her off to school and risk exposing her CP to other kids and espeicalliy those who have either pg mums, very young siblings and may be at a higher risk of complications

I get the impression he thinks I'm being a bit precious, we discussed this, this weekend in front of his mum, and their view is that "kids have to get it at some point, and she got it because some other irresponsible parent sent their kid to school with it"

So am I being precious, or is DP being irresponsible?

Just to add, as of now, the spots on her bum and legs ahve not crusted over and are still blister like

If they havent crusted over then she is still infectious (I think). Your DH IBU - best leave her at home the rest of the week and re-access on Monday.

Afaik you should only allow them near other people when they have all scabbed over, so he is bu.

Why do you have to decide now? If all the spots have crusted over by Wednesday (likely) she can go to school. If not, she can't.

Thanks Betty - I'm so glad someone agrees with me. I really was begining to wonder if I was being overly cautious about this whole thing

(and thanks for ignoring my awful spelling)

@alarkaspree - we're only discussing now because it came up while the in laws where here over the weekend. Obviously if she's all scabbed over by Wednesday then I have no problem, but DP would happily let her go out and about now if I didn't stop them.

The Doctor worded that badly

It's supposed to be 5 days minimum if the spots have all scabbed over.

Also a risk for anyone immune suppressed or pg staff at school. Cp can be very nasty in those cases.

I speak as sahp 2nd wk at home with ill kids. Agree is a pita.

YANBU. DD was immunosuppressed for several years. Someone doing what your DH is proposing and secretly sending an infectious kid in could have killed her or damaged her for life. It is different if they go in infectious beforehand, because once the spots come out the parent called the school who called me so I could take DD in for protective injections.

Immunosuppressed kids can and do die from this kind of thing. Please don't allow him to take the risk on someone else's behalf for his own convenience.

Thanks Farlo - and I'm going to show his this thread.

He is a SAHP, so I know it's a complete PITA for him, but it's just too big a risk in my view.

The argument that someone sent 'their kid to school with it' is off anyway as you can be infectious before the spots come out.

Its just plain wrong to send out a child you know is infectious like the Mum at school bringing her DS to school in the buggy then all round Aldi

HPA website which gives guidance to school suggests children need only be excluded for 5 days from the appearance of the rash! I was told that your infectious from A few days before the rash and up to 5 days after, so if your child has had it for 5 days then they should return to school on the 6th day!

Just wanted to clarify this isn't about missing school. When I say school I mean her nursery group which is typically kids from 18 months to 3 years. So she won't miss out on too much if she's kept at home.

Thanks everyone for responding

YANBU Some people a far too blase about CP, while it's not a problem for most people it's very dangerous for some, you should never knowingly expose anyone.