Aibvu

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Dd started school last sept there is a child in her class we sometimes invite for playdate, i would live about a mile from school and like to walk weather permittent of course this child lives a bit away and mum has to do another run an hour after pickup she sometimes drops hints about it being such a pain having to come back up for her dd, and everyday her ds is saying can we go to 's house today I usually say ooh were walking today another day, in fairness i dont mind them coming over now and then but not every day aibu?

No YANBU....and dont start letting them come over, you'll never get rid and before you know it she;ll have you doing the school run for her every day!

A pain to come back as in come to collect her child from yours, or a pain as in hinting for a bit of childcare from you?

No YANBU

Hecate its a pain to have to collect her dd from school, mum usually comes to house for cuppa while kids play and im there thinkin all the housework i could be doing lol!

No YANBU....I got trapped like this...a Mum who worked full time began leaving her DD with me EVERY Wednesday...I sort of allowed myself to be corralled into it as it was my DDs friend but she was a little horror!

I eventually had to tell this woman that I was busy and she dumped me like a hot potato!

Silly cow she was really.

I've had a few of these.

Tbh I would think what you are happy to do re time caring for her kids. If you think she needs support and want to offer to have them in a reciprocal arrangement style situation. Ok offer that.
If you think she is just graspy(!!) then I have and would politely make it clear that she is welcome xyz days but you are too busy to be accomodating her all the time. It's ok to say no! Some people do try their luck and I've been amazed at the cheek!

She may not be hinting, she might just be having a moan. I've just moved house and DS's school is an hour away to walk (I don't drive and we can't get public transport). Sometimes when I'm chatting to the other mums I'll mention how much of a pain it is spending 2 hours of the day going to the school and back but I'm not hinting for someone to do it for me, i'm just having a bit of a winge.

Im Better she drives she wouldnt be well off Im thinking cost of petrol might be an issue again i dont mind now and then but i dont want them taking advantage

How often are you happy with?

If you're happy with once a week (and I think that would be too often for me with most people) then you could make a comment along the lines of "It's hard for you having to do the pick ups isn't it, would you like to come round on (eg) Wednesdays generally. We're busy other days, but it'll save you on one day at least."