I don?t want to drip feed, but also want to keep this as short and to the point as possible
On my sisters BF?
DSis has been dating a guy for almost a year now, she?s always kept her love life pretty private, so it?s not unusual that she can have been in a relationship for a year before anyone in the family meets him.
Anyway it was recently her 30th Birthday, so I was invited out to join her for a few drinks with her friends and meet the new guy.
I turned up early afternoon as agreed and we had lunch and a few drinks, BF texts at 1500 to say he?s on his way (about an hour from her) she replies fine but we have to leave by 1830 or we?ll lose our reservation.
We get ready, and generally have a bit of a giggle and then we wait, and wait, eventually at 1845 we leave the house and bump into bf just as he?s arriving, drunk out of his mind, anyway she refuses to let him in the house to change and says firmly ?we?re going, we?ve waited long enough for you, you can change at the pub if you really want to?
I should add that both her 18th and 21st were ruined by her BF?s at the time being complete arses (one snogged her best mate, and the other refused to turn up, because as we later discovered he was moving in with his fiancé!!!) she had told him about this and asked him to please make sure that she didn?t have another bad big birthday
They bicker a little on the way to the pub, I walk ahead with my Sis?s Housemate and let them sort it out. We get to the pub and BF is generally being a pain, staggering into people insisting on buying rounds of drinks that no one actually wants (he even knocked over all the drinks we?d already bought and then blamed someone for bumping him ? we all saw there was no one around)
Anyway Sis takes him outside and asks him to leave, eventually after an hour (of her standing outside with him) he eventually does, and everyone actually has fun as there isn?t a drunken idiot forcing people to talk to him, getting agro with other people etc And then 2 hours later he turns up again, even more drunk, and proceeds to pass out on the bench at the table.
We decide enough is enough and leave him there, and go to a friend of my sister?s house for some more dancing. At about 2am I decide to catch a taxi back to her house, but leave her and her housemate there as they?re having fun.
When I get back to the house, someone in the flats has buzzed her bf into the central hallway, so he?s sitting there waiting for her, I politely but firmly ask him to leave and eventually get him to go outside, telling him to just go home and sleep it off, and that?s when it all kicks off. He starts kicking the door, throwing stuff at the windows (they?re on the ground floor) and buzzing all the buzzers,( I could hear the ones upstairs going) so as much as I want to ignore him I answer the intercom, refuse to let him in and tell him if he carries on I?ll phone the police (I was really shaken up by this point as I was in the house on my own) I called my sister to tell her what was going on and she said she?d catch a taxi home and to call the police, if he does carry on. Which no surprise he does, so I phone the police, after about 45 minutes they turn up and move him on, have a chat with me and make sure I?m ok, and my sister arrives home shortly afterwards.
She and him have split up, but she?s been really short with me ever since, and seems upset with me, I can?t talk to her about it as she just fobs me off.
Did I do the right thing? She did say to call the police, but now I feel she?s upset because I did
WWYD in the same situation?