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I didn't put a "smile" on his facebook comment - petty or does he have a point??

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ShutUpMeg · 13/05/2012 13:22

It's my birthday today. Last night was a faff of a night as DS cut his head open and I had to take him to A&E after an 11pm finish party. By time I got home from there it was getting on for 1am. Kids in bed - I'm still wide awake I get in bed with a cup of tea and my laptop and go on facebook.

As it was past midnight, a couple of messages wishing me a happy birthday had already appeared. I began to reply to them individually like this:

Ex boyfriend - "happy birthday! x" reply - "thank you! :-) x"
Friend - "Happy birthday hunny xx" reply - "thanks! xx"
ex sister-in-law "Happy birthday old one! xx" reply - "haha thank you! xx"
Friend who now lives in America "Happy happy birthday! :-)" reply - "thank you! x"
dp then posts "happy birthday 'rose picture made up of symbols etc' xx" and at this point DS comes in to say his head is still hurting. I was in the middle of replying to DP at the time and quickly type "thank you x"

Anyway, DP then went in a massive huff saying I hadn't "smiled" on his comment like I had on my ex's comment, my reply to him was "basic" in comparison!!!

FFS, petty or does he have a point?? do the "smiles" etc really mean something to most people?

OP posts:
Sarcalogos · 13/05/2012 13:52

What a twat. Immature twat at that.

Unless he is in fact 13 3/4's then there is no excuse for this rubbish.

ShellyBoobs · 13/05/2012 13:52

Facebook...

Biscuit
ImperialBlether · 13/05/2012 14:02

God spare me from a man who uses Facebook.

minimisschief · 13/05/2012 14:05

lol i bet if he wrote a kiss to his ex and not to you this would be a whole other thread

rainydaysarebad · 13/05/2012 14:05

Haha this made me laugh. Why do partners and spouses (spice?!!!) need to write happy birthday to each other in fb? I dont get it and I hate it when they exclaim their love for each other and how lucky they are to be married to their soul mate! Makes me barf!! Your partner is being an idiot but YABU for leaving your birthday on fb. I hid mine this year and no one wrote happy birthday on my wall so that just shows how many true friends I have on there!

kittyandthefontanelles · 13/05/2012 14:06

Spare me from anyone who uses Facebook.

CallMeAl · 13/05/2012 14:33

That would be half the world, kitty.

Spare me from superior smuggers who think they're better than people who use a social networking site while pontificating on MN as if thats superior

Anyway, OP, why are you with this nobber?

kittyandthefontanelles · 13/05/2012 15:28

Consider yourself spared, CallMeAl

ImperialBlether · 13/05/2012 15:29

I think I'm better than a knobber who counts kisses and smiley faces on a social networking site!

CallMeAl · 13/05/2012 15:33

so do I, but assuming that anyone who uses fb is like said nobber makes you a bit of a nobber yourself.

Sparks1 · 13/05/2012 15:33

I think I'm better than a knobber who counts kisses and smiley faces on a social networking site!

Undoubtably. As you're on a thread, on a social networking site, discussing it!

Coconutty · 13/05/2012 15:37

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DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 13/05/2012 15:45

YANBU he is being a total tit head. Does he know your son hurt himself and had to go to hospital? If so that's even worse.

At least you don't live with him. Bet he's a right sulker.

dwpanxt · 13/05/2012 16:00

In his book 'Blind faith' Ben Elton has his population obsessively posting on the equivalent of facebook and blog sites. If someone didn't post they were thought to be anti-social at best and perverted at worst.

It worries me a bit as it seems we are heading the same way. And this is from someone who does read facebook daily .

YADNBU

eurochick · 13/05/2012 18:03

How pathetic (on his part).

Confuseddd · 13/05/2012 18:10

Going against the grain here. You did say you got distracted when writing thanks to him. Did you tell him that? We all feel a bit insecure from time to time - maybe he wants to know he is your number one...

DizzyKipper · 13/05/2012 18:12

nah ex-sister in law clearly got the best reply kitty Wink He sounds a bit insecure.

HecateTrivia · 13/05/2012 18:16

He's jealous of the ex and he wants you to show him, the world and - most importantly - the ex, that he is more important.

so an 'x' to the ex and he'll need 3. a smile to the ex and he'll need declatations of love.

It's either that he's really insecure, or he's got some sort of 'see, she's MY woman now' thing going on.

If he's insecure, then that's sad but something that he needs to work on.

If he's doing some display to the ex, then he should probably just go over there and show him his dick and be done with it.

HecateTrivia · 13/05/2012 18:17

declatations? now that's not right at all Hmm

declarations.

Ithinkitsjustme · 13/05/2012 19:34

Tell him, you were going to put a smile on his face instead! That'll keep him happy.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 13/05/2012 20:00

Completely agree with Hectate, except I would suggest that your dp also urinates on you to mark his territory.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 13/05/2012 20:21

Rainydays- agree completely! There are plenty of people who Facebook eachother whilst SITTING NEXT TO EACHOTHER ON THE SOFA! How loser-ish?!

OP- YANBU, unless he is indeed 13.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 13/05/2012 20:22

Ps I'm not on fb anymore and don't miss it!

skybluepearl · 13/05/2012 22:38

Is your DP 13?

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