I am, I know I am, just need a kick up the arse.
I'll try not to make this too long, but also try not to drip feed.
Lovely friend and I both moved overseas to become expats on the same day, but to different countries - didn't know each other then. A year later I moved countries again and we lived close by and were introduced. We have very little in common but became close friends. She is the sort who would do anything for anyone despite having severe health problems, and she's someone I trust.
She moved to a different city, we stayed in touch, and by coincidence we moved to the same city. We saw each other regularly and she introduced me to quite a few people, some I stay in touch with, the rest I'll say hello to or chat with if we bump into each other.
Because she does so much to help other people, I try to help her out when I can to try and give back something to someone so selfless.
Her health got much worse last year and the most I could do was look after her pets while she was in hospital, which was no bother as I have my own pets.
They left to go home later in the year due to her health and them having no medical insurance. Her DH left soon after to take a job overseas (he'd been jobless for a long time) and she settled in well with her sister. We stayed in touch and I was glad she was happy back home.
Before they left they asked me to store some boxes of valuables which they didn't want to leave but couldn't take. They also gave me the keys to all their properties so I could collect bills and make sure they were all fine, no floods etc. I also used to clean their car so it didn't look abandoned and get towed away. I also lied to anyone who asked as she didn't want anyone to know she'd left the country.
They were supposed to meet back here months ago but she wasn't well enough to travel so her DH came alone for a few days and came to mine and collected the boxes and all the keys - no explanation as to why they didn't want me looking after or looking out for them. Fine, no problem. I understand this may not be sinister - maybe they felt they had put me out for long enough (which wasn't the case but you never know what they were thinking).
Since a few months ago I've not heard from her and she stopped responding to my emails, so out of concern i emailed her DH and asked if she was ok as I was worried I hadn't heard from her. He replied to say thanks for asking, she wasn't ok but she didn't want to discuss.
A week ago I noticed his car was missing. Concerned that it had been towed I emailed to say it had gone and I hoped he was aware, but if not I would try and find out what had happened if he wanted me to. I never heard back. A few days ago I saw his car back again, and clean so I'm sure he's here, or has been here.
I know their problems are theirs and they don't have to justify their whereabouts or wellbeing to me but I do care for her immensely and I'm so upset that I don't even know if she's still alive -her health problems were v v serious.
There isn't anything I can do except leave them to it and silently hope for the best, is there? :(