He invited a female friend to our house while I was out

[DairyJo]

I have 8 week old twins. For the first time since they were born I went out for the day with my friends. When I got home my BF casually mentioned that a female friend who I haven't met had popped round to help him look after the children. He had prearranged the visit the day before but not said anything. She is married, had no children herself and lives five mins away. They have been on business trips together and he says he has known her for 18 years. This had not been mentioned before. I was very upset but he says I am insecure and slightly mad. I think he has no respect for me whatsoever. What should I do?

He should not have said that to you but...he may be right! You have 8 week old twins, I have had twins too (7 now) you are having a emotional low IMO it will be fine, just relax!

i think he will need help whenever you are out for the day and he has care of the twins. next time, make sure your mum or his mum (or a sister) is in the house to assist.
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Huh? This thread already exsists!

He's known her for 18yrs but you've never met her?

Why ever not? Especially if she lives so close.

Thanks for the replies.

They go on business trips together too, which is fine, but he hasnt invited any of his other colleagues (they are not co-workers but just work in the same industry) to our house.

Maybe it's me, but I wouldn't go to a male friends house on my own if I didn't know or hadn't met his wife or girlfriend. I guess that's what I don't get.

Sorry - doing this on my iPhone which didn't refresh the page do I submitted it twice by mistake.

I find it strange that he didn't mention it to you first, but I don't think there's anything odd about going to the home of a friend of the opposite sex without their partner being there.
Your emotions are bound to be a bit erratic at the moment, so he should have done his best to reassure you, not to insult you by calling you slightly mad!

I wouldn't read too much into it.

When I'd go to work DH would often have coffee mornings with other mums from the school in our house. I'd often get home to find 3 or 4 women parking their arses on our sofa

Why don't he invite her round for coffee when you are both home next, I think you have every right to meet her if she's going to be in your house and around your children

I think you should go out to lunch or dinner with this married couple. Your dh's reaction when you suggest it will say a lot, and it's frankly odd that he's close enough to her that he asks her for help but you haven't socialised together as a foursome yet.

Yabvvvvvu for posting the same thread twice.

Not at all strange that he should invite a friend round while you're out. No problem that it's someone of opposite sex. Very odd that it's a friend who lives near, that he's known for 18 years & you've never met.

I bet she wants to meet the twins! Nothing sinister at all

It's not that odd
I've loads of colleagues who I'd class as friends dh has never met and vice versa