DS is 7 weeks old. Me and exP had been together for a very short time when I fell pregnant very unexpectedly, he was not happy, left me and quickly found a new girlfriend and pretty much ignored me for my whole pregnancy, but still demanded he be at the birth.
Since having our son I've welcomed his family into my home who seem to never know when to leave , bent over backwards to give him time with our son, even let his new girlfriend into my house to see the baby (which I won't be doing again since she said nothing and didn't even look at my son). I always involve him with decisions, update him on DS's progress and send him pictures. He visited every few days in the beginning for short periods of time, but now has reduced to once a week at very most for about 15 minutes.
As he visits so infrequently and briefly, he's never changed a nappy, dealt with DS when he's been crying, got him to sleep, prepared bottles etc but has tried to pressure me into letting him take son overnight on his own. I've suggested he spends more time with DS first to get us all used to it, and have been told it's 'not appropriate'.
Would like to clarify I in no way wish he would get back with me, this is not any form of attempt to cling onto him using my son. I just wish he'd make more of a bloody effort instead of thinking our baby is a toy to take out and show your friends?!