H and I both have a lot of work on at the moment and to be honest I have put my projects on the back burner so H can get on with his stuff as he has had a particularly busy week. I know I shouldn't have martyred myself but I was expecting him to do the same for me a some point.
Yesterday I told him I would take DC out in the afternoon so he could do some work and asked if he would mind doing the morning stuff. That was all fine. He then decided he was going to go out in the evening. I was a bit grumpy about it but I admit I was just being silly, asked him what time he would be back and he said "not late, before 2". Fine, whatever.
At 6am he rolls in with a waif and stray friend who often stays in our spare room. He wakes DS up who is in the bed with me as he has a cough, I tell H that he can sleep on the sofa as he stinks of booze, smoke etc and I don't want him sleeping in the bed with DS. Of he goes. It takes me ages to get DS back to sleep and then we get up at 8, obviously I am not going leave DS with H as he is in no fit state. H is in spare room and waif and stray friend is on the sofa playing with computer. He stays there, falling in and out of sleep until 12.30 when I tell him to either get up or go and sleep in the spare room.
I then take DC out for the afternoon as planned and I've just got in to find they have gone out "for something to eat". I am left to sort out dinner/bed time etc.
I'm fuming. H has form for doing stuff like this even though he knows it drives me mad/makes me anxious although he hasn't done it for a long time. Am I being ridiculous?