To be expecting more support??!!

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Work has been really stressful recently, I have a huge workload and things are totally manic in the office. Every time I mention it to DH (not every evening but some) he straight away starts harping on saying 'WHAT? your works manic, what about mine' blah blah blah! I can never say anything about it without it being a competition and him having to get in that his work is so much worse and harder than mine. AIBU to expect more support? Or should I just not talk about work to him? I feel like I need to sometimes that's the only problem! (because it's so stressful at the moment!! More stressful than his work haha I win! )

Ask him if he would like to talk about his work. If he says no, say that you feel better when you do and would like him to just listen. Are you sure you don't go on about it more than your letting on? Dh always moans about work, but if you say anything he says he doesn't. I don't mind listening for a while but it does get tedious especially if I am having a hard time as well.

Thanks DPrince that's good advice, yes maybe I do go on about it alot and don't realise, I'll try and be more aware of it. Thanks for the replyx

How about asking him why he replies like that. It could be you go on about it more than you thought, it could be that he feels it's some kind of competition to see who can get out of the chores. It had never occurred to my DH before we talked about it that sometimes I just needed him to listen, not fix it, or. Ompete with it, or even really respond much. All I needed was a chance to get it out of my head.

I agree with skiing. He may not realize he's doing it. I'd want to say something like, 'You know, when you say that, it makes me feel as if you think you're saying your work is harder than mine so I shouldn't complain'.

He sounds very irritating and I would have to pull him up on it! My Dh is a little like that as if ever I say I have a headache or cold or whatever he says 'yeah do have I' I turn it into a joke and say 'ok ok you win, you can be the ill-est!'

So have I not do have I! Bloody phone!!