To keep saying - 'no it's just fat!'

[Spice17]

Hi peeps

I'm just under 5 months pregnant and for some reason every time someone tells me I'm showing I instantly retort back that 'it's just fat' causing an embarrasing situation all round.

I am a bit paranoid about it because wasn't skinny to start with but as of yesterday realised I am showing (was ever so slightly startled by it looking in the mirror yesterday morning after coming back from a holiday with no proper mirrors!) but still feel the need to say this, even said to in laws on Fri night causing a cringy silence - anyone else, why oh why!

Yabu. Stop it. If ever there was a time to not be paranoid about stomachage it is now, congratulations

I have to say it's just fat. I am 48 and virtually as fronty and bellyish as when DD was born - 11 years ago today.

Do people know your pregnant, I used to say its fat as well, even to people who knew I was preg, got really big as went to 42 weeks and people would say your really big and I say oh this bits baby and this bits fat not sure why

Heh heh! They shouldn't be commenting anyway.
I'd probably drop it when your contractions are two or three minutes apart, not a moment before.

I loved being pregnant with DS2 because I had an excuse for my less than flat belly again!

Make yourself say "yes, it's lovely isn't it?" you should be happy to be showing that you're pregnant, you won't look fat, you will look pregnant. You need to realise they aren't saying you look 'big/fat' they are saying 'you look pregnant' - this is a good thing, it's a compliment. Make yourself take a deep breath and smile at anyone saying you're showing.

You need to be kind to yourself, it is hard to embrace the changes to your body if you've spent your adult life trying to 'contain' your figure, but it is a positive lovely thing that you're getting bigger, hard to accept if 'getting bigger' has always been a negative.