thing it rude to ask someone if they are pregnant

[McHappyPants2012]

I am losing weight, was a size 16 and now fit comfortably into a size 14 :) I have been exercising.

i am 110% sure i am not pregnant, but iabu to think it just something you dont ask people

YANBU it is very rude.

However, from your second post I think it's far more likely that people are assuming this because you're not drinking rather than because of your weight. Not that that makes them any less unreasonable for voicing this opinion.

Is it rude or just insensitive, or is that the same thing? Whatever, it's one of those questions that one should never ever ask. Period.

rude for sure

Is it just me or does anyone else find it rude and annoying when you finally announce your'e pregnant and they say "I knew it"

Its made me really cross recently... there seems to be competition to guess and know practically before the mother does....

My work colleague was persistently asked if she was pg as she had a visible bump-not fat iyswim.

Turned out she had a growth the size of a grapefruit and it was only discovered when she was actually pg.

She was constantly embarrassed though.

Unless its completely obvious you are very pg, I never ask.

Unless you impregnated the person or the other person is actually in labour and you can see the baby's head you should never ever ask a woman if she's pregnant. Just far too many ways in which it can go wrong!

This happened me once when I was very much younger. My dh and I were flat hunting for our first flat and the lady who was showing us around assumed I was pg- probably because I was wearing a smock type top and a bit fat. She didn't wait for me to answer, told her dh and her MIL I was expecting and then carried on showing us round talking about nurseries and hospitals and toddler groups. I was sore afronted and so was dh but it went so far so quickly neither of us managed to get a word in to tell her I wasn't.
We left asap but even though we liked the flat we couldn't buy it. It was still on the market for quite a long time when we bought one up the road.

Yes very rude. I have a colleague who would LOVE kids, but has no partner. She does actually look pregnant - maybe about 4 months - as she does carry weight right there. I have known her 15 years or so and she has always looked like this. She has been asked numerous times by new starters at work if she is pregnant and I know it really upsets her.

Yes it is very rude.

Being a receptionist in an antenatal clinic, I am probably a bit more aware of this that other people, but I do still get caught out sometimes. I normally say, "who are you here to see?" but the one time I say, "are you here to see the midwife" it turns out it was the new student midwife. Well she was there to see the midwife, but not the way I meant.

YANBU for being upset. Well done you for giving up smoking and drinking etc.
YABU for saying "110%"

YANBU, it's up there with "you better get cracking on a family".

The temptation to shout "Really? I've obviously just not been trying hard enough for the last two-fecking-years!" is growing stronger by the day

I find it almost as bad when I'm asked if I'm having any more. One woman at nursery asked this of us all as we waited for our DC, and I found it very rude as surely its none of anyone's business?

She shut up fast though as she asked my friend who responded, well I've got five already so no!

I wouldn't dream of asking. My sister has a huge belly and was once asked if she was pregnant. She was pretty upset.

I would be mortified if someone asked me if I was pregnant and would start a diet the next day.

Someone I now hate once stroked my belly.

No I wasn't.

See? Hate them.