To not want my baby bump touched/kissed by my DP

[Ekpoma76]

Am generally not a touchy person, but my DP likes to touch and kiss the bump always. Am i being unreasonable telling DP not to do it all the time. Worst when strangers want to touch it as i almost want to slap them. It's still my body even with the beauty bump as i wouldn't walk up to someone at work and just want to touch their stomach, am i been unreasonable expecting the same view to be taken towards my lovely bump.

With DP YABU and a bit odd.

With strangers YANBU. I hate any stranger touching me.

I think yabu towards your dp, you must have been a tad touchy feely to end up with a bump no?

YANBU about other people wanting to touch it, i hope they aren't trying to kiss it too, if they are a slap would be warranted imo

I think it's nice that your DP wants to feel close to his growing baby. Strangers - not so much.

If you really hate it, tell him. It is your body. But I expect he will feel hurt.

You don't like your dp touching or kissing your bump?

I understand that you may not be a 'touchy feely person' with strangers but with your dp?

How did you even get pregnant?

Would hate strangers to have touched my bump, but of course DP was allowed to touch it, talk to it, etc!

"my DP likes to touch and kiss the bump always"

So is it the fact that the touching seems incessant that bothers you? I'm sure you can bring that up and ask for a little more space if it is, if it seems like it's all the time.

I hated strangers touching my bump, a good tactic is to reach for their tummy, they usually back away looking very alarmed. YAB a little U about dp though, I loved all the people I loved having a fondle

YANBU. There's a difference between sexual contact, affectionate hugs and someone, even a DH or DP, touching/kissing your stomach because you're pregnant. It's one of those peculiar things which would irritate the hell out of me and DH might regret doing a second time, having been warned the first.

"... Am i being unreasonable telling DP not to do it all the time ..."

YANBU if it really is " all the time " because, TBH it would annoy me as well.

DD1 is the only person who gets unfettered access to my bump.

I was always fine with DH touching my bump, but then I enjoy physical contact with him

A small prize for anyone who can think of a way of telling an excited father to be that he's not allowed anywhere near the "bump" that won't leave him feeling hurt and sad!

Umm... I know! Wriggle down so he grabs the nork area instead? I bet he wouldn't mind.

YANBU!
He should count himself lucky that he hasn't been asked to move out for the rest of the pregnancy! I know men who had a permanantly packed back at the door during pregnancies.
me? I made DH go away and shower if he came near me during my 2nd and 3rd trimesters, even if he'd just showered an hour ago, he smelt of PERSON - EUGH!

I must be odd. Everyone has access to my bump. I love the idea that ppl want to make contact with baby, and I think he/she enjoys it aswell. It;s natural! DP loves to lay and stroke his babys house

It depends on what you mean by 'all the time'. For me, once a day -lovely. Once an hour - annoying. But, as people always say on Mumsnet, it is your body. OP
seeker The OP could suggest they have bump time, at intervals she is comfortable with, when they both talk to it together.

How did you even get pregnant?

:o at this

much as that is lovely and fine and normal for you, it did make me a little bit bit sick in my mouth when you described YOUR abdomen as "his babys house"

I'm with you on this one. I'm only 16 wks but have a bit of bump and hubby loves sitting with his hand on it. He calls it 'the baby cage' which I know is him trying to be sweet in his odd way.

I feel very self conscious about it. It's not big enough to be a bump so I just feel fat and he keeps touching it. I don't have the heart to ask him to stop because I want him to feel involved and I know he's trying to be sweet.

I don't know how is to be an equal parent after the baby is born if he can't get to know it now! Does this mean that you are going to be 'the expert parent', telling him how to hold the baby, bath him/her etc and not go out and leave them for a couple of hours? I may be reading it wrong, but it doesn't bode well for him if he is already cast onto the sidelines.

You have a severe case of Precious First Bump.

The OP is getting a tough time here. This may not even be about pregnancy but about her stomach in general, regardless of its size or state. Some people just have body areas which, when touched, really bugs them.

I'm quite a touchy feely person, greet friends with a hug and a kiss etc and they to me but if someone touches my stomach, my hair or hangs onto my legs I have to fight the urge to whoomp them.

"I don't know how is to be an equal parent after the baby is born if he can't get to know it now!"

:o

He can't "get to know it now"!

Nobody can - it's a foetus floating in a bag of amniotic fluid.

DH has never had any interest in touching any of my bumps, but he's a great parent (although thankfully not one that thinks "equality" in parenting is important from the moment they're out).

Strangers/work colleagues etc - YANBU
Your dh - WHAT? YABU

I didn't mind friends., loved dh stroking and touching but not so keen on Strangers!!

I think u r subconsciously protecting your baby and maybe feeling a bit tense about the pregnancy?? All totally normal.

But dp might b a tad upset if u told him to lay off.