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To think owning a dog is not as hard work as everyone makes out?

139 replies

FidoAndHisBone · 08/05/2012 21:28

I had a dog until I was about 25 and I found it pretty straightforward. I lived abroad and often where I lived people don't keep their dogs indoors but mine was.

I suppose the hardest part was not being able to leave him alone, I didn't ever leave him alone for more than about 3 hours but to be honest that was the only difficult part, apart from when he had to be put down, that was devastating.

I am now married with 3 DC and we are planning to get another dog but every single person I've mentioned it to (funnily enough none of them dog owners) has told me what incredibly hard work it is... I am a SAHM so will spend most of my time with him and I love long walks. Obviously I am more than happy to put the time in to train him too!

OP posts:
iMoniker · 09/05/2012 02:10

We have a whippet. He is the easiest dog in the world.

He needs no more than 30 minutes walking a day but between us he gets nearer an hour out every day. He loves going out with us - we took him to the beach over the weekend and were out all day. If he doesn't have a walk he doesn't sulk. He's on his own every day for a 3/4 hours, we leave him with a frozen chicken neck as a treat, his bed in the sunshine and he loves it.

He doesn't shed, chew, bark, stink, pee on things. He just gazes at me adoringly, acts like a shadow when I am at home and absolutely loves lieing in bed with my DS - especially when he can cuddle under the covers.

Pudgy2011 · 09/05/2012 03:27

We have 2 medium sized shepherd mixes (Elvis and Frank) and a 7 month old DS.

I'll be totally honest, if we'd known I was going to get knocked up so quickly, we'd have thought twice about rescuing Frank from under a car when he was 6 weeks old. One dog is work but two is something else entirely. DH and I always say that DS was actually easier to handle than Elvis when we first got him. He whined, cried and barked his way through his first 4 months with us, we got up more times in the night with him than we did with DS!

I wouldn't be without my two now and we're lucky that the climate where we live allows for plenty of walks but I'm not sure I would manage back in the UK.

Perhaps doing it the other way around (kids then dog) would be easier, especially with more hands to help out. Training and discipline is the most important though, that's the only thing I would worry that would fall by the wayside with so many other things to deal with.

Have fun if you do get one though, I begged my parents all the time for a dog and finally had my wish come true at the grand old age of 29! And I'll be honest, collecting my gorgeous fluffy bundle of mutt from the pound was one of the happiest days of my life. Helps that he's a handsome bastard... both thick as pig shit though :)

Dolcelatte · 09/05/2012 03:33

I have three dogs, one large, one medium and one small. I don't find them hard work and they bring immense joy to the family. Before I had the dogs, someone said to me that a house was not a home without a dog, and now I understand what he means. It is wonderful for children to have pets and it also teached them responsibility. Go for it!

TheCatInTheHairnet · 09/05/2012 04:02

I got 2 puppies within quite a small distance of each other. Personally, I think having dogs is easy! Mine have at least an hour off leash every morning, and then playtime in the afternoon. Plus they have us/each other for the rest of the time. And then they sleep.

I go along the idea of a tired dog being a happy dog tbh.

AdoraBell · 09/05/2012 04:07

I don't find it hard work either. Personally I think that people who want a dog find it less work and more rewarding to have dogs than people who have them because someone else -spouse or children usually- wants a dog but leaves the walking, feeding and general caring for them to their partner.

Someone else may already have said that, in which case-sorry- too tired to read threadSmile

CheshireDing · 09/05/2012 04:38

Dh and I both work full time so he does 2 mornings dog walking, I do 2 and the dog goes to daycare for 1 day a week. After work we used to walk him together so it was a nice opportunity for us to chat about our day.

Now I am on ML though it has been hard, it means I never really get a lie-in (after being awake with the baby overnight) as I need to get up and walk him - because he will not poo in the gaden (plus I don't think I want poo in the garden anyway). The dog does find the baby crying stressful and I know it has meant less playtime with him but hopefully as she gets older and the weather improves we will be able to play more again.

Personally I would never have a Lab/Retriever/Jack Russell/Spaniel as they all need too much walking for our lifestyle and their hair attracts mud and then they stink (excluding the JR). JR are highly intelligent and need the stimulation as they will trash the house.

We take the dog camping and if we want to go on holiday abroad we do need to factor in the cost of accommodation for the dog (we use a company where he goes to stay with people, rather than kennels).

We had a rescue Greyhound previously and we have a hound type now.

ACoiledThing · 09/05/2012 05:25

My dog was a bit tricky for the first few (puppy) months but now she is an absolute treasure and I wouldn't be without her. I work part time so she isn't alone for too long and she gives me great exercise. I can honestly say she is very little trouble and has always been worth it. Our vet advised us to get a bitch as we have a boy (less alpha male issues?) and a mongrel for happy disposition and sturdy health. Don't know if she was right about the gender issue as didn't get a male so can't judge but can say that she has only visited the vet once (apart from her yearly injections) in 6 years. We all love, love, love her.

nooka · 09/05/2012 05:36

We have a lovely mutt, and he is a very easy dog. Very happy, good company and not very demanding. His favourite activity is sleeping :)

But we have older children and dh is at home all day, so really we have a lot of time for him. Plus we live somewhere where going for a walk is a real pleasure.

The first couple of months were pretty hard however.

gafhyb · 09/05/2012 07:10

imoniker (and others)

As a non-dog person-but-coming-round (DH wants a dog), I was thinking of a whippet, for the reasons you say.

I work school hours and could pop back for lunch too. We have a small garden but a big park nearby.
We have a Camper Van - which is great for getting out in the country and dogs are mostly permitted at campsites

Is traffic sense a problem when off the lead?

Thanks

gafhyb · 09/05/2012 07:11

.... I have heard whippets described as a dog for cat lovers!

Bunbaker · 09/05/2012 07:28

It's obvious that dog lovers don't find them hard work and people who aren't dog lovers do. The fact is that a dog needs walking every day, they create more cleaning, they need feeding and they are a commitment, but no more of a commitment than having children. But there are people who don't want children either.

None of your friends own dogs because they just don't want the hassle. I don't want a dog either because I'm not prepared to walk in all weathers, have a house smell of dog and constantly have to leave it in kennels because we have to visit family.

Bunbaker · 09/05/2012 07:30

"Is traffic sense a problem when off the lead?"

As a driver I get very nervous when I see a dog on the pavement not on a lead. No matter how well trained a dog is if a bitch on heat walks past on the other side of the road the dog, if male, will make a beeline for her. OH lost his very well trained dog that way.

D0oinMeCleanin · 09/05/2012 07:30

Gafhyb my dad and I both have a whippet, mine is as described above. Placid, docile, easy going etc. My Dad's a nutcase. I luffs her, but she is an utter fruit loop.

I used to call her Freya the Flying Whippet because everytime I went to their house she would literally fly at my head (out of love and excitement not malice but it's still disconcerting having a dog fly accross the room aiming at your head)

She's getting slightly better now with training and no longer flys but she is still as mad as a box of frogs.

She ended up with my dad because the family who took her on as a pup could not handle her exuberence. I also know of someone at work who sold their whippet pup for similar reasons Angry

Not all whippets are quiet, there are always those who buck the trend.

If having an easy going dog is important to you, you would be far better off rescuing an older dog whose personality is already known. For terms of ease I cannot reccomend retired greyhounds enough.

I post often about how hard and time consuming dog ownership is. The reality is I love it. I don't find it hard at all. My whippet is very easy. She loves walking but is equally happy to miss her walk and have a cuddle instead if the weather is bad. She's never chewed anything. She house trained like a dream. 99.99% of her time is spent sleeping whilst cuddled upto something living be it the cat or a person. My terrier is a different kettle of fish all together, but I am finding him increasingly easy to deal with. I can see how others would find him hard work.

The reason I stress about how hard a dog is is to prepare people for the worst. You do get high energy dogs who require a lot of work. Sometimes i.e most of the time, people have never owned dog before greatly underestimate just how much they change your life and house. This is why so many end up in rescue. If you can read about all that can go wrong and you still want a dog, great, you will make a good dog owner. If reading about dog hair as a condiment and hour long walks in hailstone and torrential rain and never ending pools of piss all over your house is enough to put you off then you weren't ready for a dog and have had a lucky escape, so has your potential dog who would have ended up feeling resented or in a rescue.

Even when you love dog ownership there are still days when you will wish for your old, simple dog free life. Mainly during bleak winter weather and when your children are ill but the dog still needs walking.

This is about dogs btw. Not puppies. Puppies are hardwork, no matter how much you love them. They're rewarding but they're hard work. Much like a tempremental toddler. I'd happily take on an adult rescue over a pup anyday.

Whatmeworry · 09/05/2012 07:33

Big dogs are more work than little dogs, but little dogs yap, its hard to leave dogs for a weekend away and they all shit too much.

Cats are far easier to keep and walk themselves.

iamme43 · 09/05/2012 07:34

We have a two year old lab, and have had him since he was 8 weeks old.

He is a joy, toilet training was easy only one poo and three wees so far in his life and none since three months old, but we did take him outside on the hour for a few weeks. Do not just open the back door you have to physically take him out.

Get insurance mine is less than £10 a month from argos.

Labs shed all the time so hoovering once a day is the only chore.

I love walking him and as for the rain get some waterproofs.

And my house does not smell like a dog only houses that do are ones that dont hoover and clean enough.

buggyRunner · 09/05/2012 07:34

Been bought up with dogs and after having a cat with dp I will never get a dog again. They smell and need too much. Where as my cat gives lots of love and is great with the dd's and requires minimum effort Grin

Said cat is currently being pushed by dd1 in her peppa pig pram

TheCunningStunt · 09/05/2012 07:36

I pretty much had dogs my whole life. I had one when I gave birth to DS. But my then partner had just left and dealing with a new baby and a lovely, but mad dog, was just too much. I since then have a dd and they really keep me on my toes. I know that having a dog is so lovely, the kids would love one but everything would fall to me. I would need to not be out for long, spontaneous weekends away would need to be planned, not sudden etc. factor in the cost and the extra worry. It is hard, and right now, not for us. So YABU

Whoopydofoxpoo · 09/05/2012 07:53

Not necessarily hard work but time consuming - walking , could be expensive if you don't get insurance and you have to think about them if you want to go out for the whole day or away on holiday - a bit like the children really .Grin

Hard work when puppy but other than that OK - we have 2 yr old lab.

iamme43 · 09/05/2012 08:21

I didnt find my puppy hard work you just have to be organised and get a routine going.

wordfactory · 09/05/2012 08:35

I think the main reason why having a dog is hard is that it is yet another layer of responsibility in a life where most women are already spread as thinly as vlaue margarine.

I would not be wihtout our dogs. But they are something I have to consider every day of my life.

MothershipG · 09/05/2012 08:47

I think that if you expect the worst then you can only be pleasantly surprised. Smile

I know a few people who grew up with dogs and thought that they were no trouble but then when they got one of their own they realised how much hard work and responsibility they can actually be! And as many posters have said all dogs are different, even within breeds, so for example I got a Schnauzer because I read that they had terrier looks without the terrier temperament...my Schnauzer is 100% terrier.

Take all the comments on board, go in with your eyes open and enjoy your future dog! Check out The Doghouse lots of helpful people and info in there. Smile

melika · 09/05/2012 08:52

Agreed, he is our familys pet therapy, everyone loves him, even visitors. Someone to talk about and we know it doesn't hurt his feelings!

As I tell my Bales (Bailey), 'You are wonderful, you know that don't you?'
He looks at me with those chocolate eyes and understands fully.Smile

Goddam! It's all worth it!

HeartsJandJ · 09/05/2012 09:50

I had my old dog when DD was born and he was perfect. From being a really spoilt child substitue he just accepted and loved her straight away. People (family ... parents actually) kept going on about how he couldn't be trusted blah blah blah. All absolute bollocks and he was amazing and gentle with her right up to his last day.

We then got a puppy who is extremely cute and loveable but strangely DD is nowhere near as attached to him. He loves her to bits but I think she would still prefer to have an older dog, maybe because they are more gentle?

Anyway, my rambling point is that if you love dogs then every effort is worth it because the rewards are so great. Exactly like having children.

Whoopydofoxpoo · 09/05/2012 09:54

Don't know about being the 'family pet therapy' I think she is my therapy !

GingerBlondecat · 09/05/2012 09:57

The easiest dogs we've had have been the Spanial and the Goldern Retreiver.

The Border Collie we have now, is no couch potatoe.

( had work/farm dogs all my life, great fun Grin )

Choosing the correct breed/ select a calm dog from rescue.
Train
Enjoy
Love.