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Will this shit never end???

16 replies

Magneto · 08/05/2012 16:08

Dh has a monumentally shitty job he has been trying to get out of for years. Today he had his first ever call back from an employer who is interested in calling him in for an interview, however from the way he was speaking it seemed like dh had the job in the bag already. Then he gets asked, do you have any holidays booked this year. We do as it happens, it's our first holiday in over 5 years. We have a week in Cornwall booked in June. Oh says the man on the phone. That's going to be a problem as they don't like anyone to go on holiday in the first month. He will speak to the employers and get back to dh.

That's as far as we have got in all the years of job hunting for dh and it seems it has been whipped out from our hands as fast as it was put in them. Seriously hoping that the holiday will not be a problem but not holidng out any hope.

Everything happens for a reason does it? What's that reason then, to ensure we are as bloody miserable as possible for as long possible?

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Seabright · 08/05/2012 16:12

Shitty as it is, I think your DH should be willing to cancel/postpone.

I would hope that any employer hiring at this time of year would realise that people will have holiday booked. Good luck

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Magneto · 08/05/2012 16:19

I really don't think it's worth cancelling the holiday. We wouldn't get a refund and the job is only temporary and minimum wage anyway. The idea was that it would be good for dh's cv to get a bit of variety in it after being stuck at his current place of hell for so long. Having a bad day today which only seems to be getting better. Sorry for the rant.

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looktoshinford · 08/05/2012 16:41

The correct answer was 'yes I have a holiday in June but I can cancel it if thats a problem'

Employers can pick and choose nowadays.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 08/05/2012 16:44

Yep agree, if this job is so important to DH then cancel the holiday.......it's hardly pick and choose at the moment! However, I have to say its a bit strange he would be willing anyway to give up a permanent job for a temp one, esp as he knows how hard it has been to even get that one...what will he do when the other job finishes?

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Magneto · 08/05/2012 17:04

He is part time at the moment because he cut his hours down as much as we could afford to lower his stress levels, this job fits around his current one and he was planning on doing both jobs just to get the extra experience and a foot out of the door of his current employment.

The thing is though we can't cancel. We saved really hard for that holiday and won't get any of the money back which is too much waste.

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DPrince · 08/05/2012 17:09

You cam cancel, you would lose your money which would be shit. But you have to decide which is more important. If its the holiday, that's fine but that's not really 'shit never ending' that's you making a decision.

ENormaSnob · 08/05/2012 17:12

Could he not ask to start after the holiday?

IWantSummer · 08/05/2012 17:25

Could you go on holiday without him Wink

Olympia2012 · 08/05/2012 17:27

I was going to say the same!! Go without him!

Gumby · 08/05/2012 17:28

I'd go without him

OutInAllWeathers · 08/05/2012 18:33

OP just wanted a bit of a rant i think, maybe DH could have said he could cancel but then they would lose all the money they've paid. And going without him isn't a great solution either since holidays are usually about family time,
Op you have my sympathies, sometimes feels like you take one step forward and two back hey?

Mosman · 08/05/2012 18:37

Id go without him it's not ideal but my DH had to go ahead of me to the other side of the planet for work, where there's a will there's a way. Hopefully

solidgoldbrass · 08/05/2012 18:41

DOn't take the job, tell them to stuff it. Someone who is offering an insecure, part time, zero hours contract will be a horrible employer, even more so if they think they can tell you to cancel your holiday and lose all your money just like that.

bronze · 08/05/2012 18:43

I agree with sgb

TheCrackFox · 08/05/2012 18:58

Also agree with SGB. Most employers are not monsters and are prepared for new employees to have already booked a holiday.

BustersOfDoom · 08/05/2012 19:23

I agree with SGB. I got a job back in the 80s - height of the recession - and I'd got a holiday booked two weeks after I was due to start that I'd been saving up for for about a year out of my part-time 6th form earnings. Employer - large Govt department - tried to suggest I cancelled it. I suggested they reimburse me, being young and cheeky. They then told me not to worry about it and they'd honour it, which they did.

If they want him for his skills and experience they won't worry about honouring a holiday. I say that as someone who has been involved in recruitment. The right candidate is always worth waiting for.

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