To be freaking out a little...

[Softlysoftly]

...ok so I took DD (2.5) out of nursery as she hated it, MIL wanted to care for her, DD wanted to go to MILS and we could barely afford it anyway.

My only reservations were their house isn't child proofed I agreed to let her go there on the ABSOLUTE AGREEMENT that she be watched at all times and some basic safety changes were made.

This has been working ok up until today when I was working from their upstairs office, MIL comes running in saying she can't find DD but then tries to play it down saying they are playing hide and seek as she sees my reaction . Obviously I didn't believe a bloody word, freak out, shout DD and eventually find her in my SIL's room, on the bed climbing up to a wide open window (2nd floor), swallowable things, wires, scissors, all sorts within easy reach and a key in the door she could turn to shut herself in. Cue me doing my nut at DD for coming upstairs alone (and sneaking past the office door), and very restrainabley telling MIL this wasn't ok (blood on tongue).

I am now freaking out, i'm 8 months pregnant, have a week left at work, have agreed to go back to work quite quickly on the basis I could work without having to put a baby into a nursery and having it with one carer but if they can't watch one toddler how the hell will they keep 2 safe?!

DH is on his way back from a funeral so haven't told him yet, but I anticipate absolute ballistics on his arrival as he is far less nice to his parents than I am.

So AIBU to be freaking out about childcare and re-evalutaing the whole situation? Can these "one offs" happen and i'm being too dramatic??

"i'm talking kettle on head height table (DH has major arm burn from being a baby to attest to this), gas hob left on with child alone in room, knives within reach, front door open onto major road etc."

I don´t think I´d continue tbh.

Well DH now knows as MIL told him herself when he got here, I underestimated him and he has been ok about it. We have decided to have a chat tonight about the very very basics they HAVE to do to continue having DD. I knows its free childcare and I am massively grateful about the money savings and having a person who loves them be the carer but i'm not willing to compromise on major safety issues because of it.

I didn't shout at MIL by the way, I said she had to watch her more, very calmly, I shouted at DD instead poor thing, then had to apologise to her!

ffb They don't live with us, that could be an option if I can persuade MIL.

Good suggestion about the netting gate, I think Wilsons idea is a good one i'll just be a bit (nicely) bombastic about it at the weekend and get some safety stuff/do some house clearing, SIL is a good influence and i'm sure she'll help. If I still get rebuffed I am going to have to look at childcare options again.