Over the years I've seen a few things and I always want to shout "Its not really a special case - no-one likes doing that but we just have to do it..."
"I would do xyz but I can't because I don't like confrontation"....What...you really think that everyone else actively revels in confrontation and you are some sort of a special case who gets away without confronting people...! In my mind. NOBODY likes confrontation but sometimes things have to be done..
"..but as an emetaphobe I can't deal with people being sick"...Look, no-one LOVES people being sick....everyone hates vomit. You aren't a special case in disliking it...but again, it happens and coping has to be done...
"...I tend not to go into new groups because I get shy around need people"....Thats basic human nature..!! Look back to the cavemen - you had to be wary going into a new tribe and be wary of people coming into your tribe...itsw normal....but it jolly well has to be done on a lot of occassions., toughen up Buttercup
Everyone is pretty much "like you" as far as likes, dislikes and stress issues....but that doesn't mean you can back out of things because they are a bit tough.
I'm a complete cow aren't I...