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Original poster

To think some mothers are just SHIT.

59 replies

toofattorun · 07/05/2012 23:17

Today at Legoland it wad raining quite heavily. I saw a mum and a little girl standing outside the toilets. The mum was dressed warmly and the little girl (about 5 yrs) had shorts, T-shirt, cardigan and a pair of Crocs. She was cold and visibly shivering. The mum said "take your cardigan off" so the little girl took her cardi off and the mum proceeded to place the hood of it on her head ( a la Batman stylee) to stop her fucking hair getting wet?!?!
Some mums are just SHIT and no, IANBU.

OP posts:
difficultpickle · 07/05/2012 23:54

Didn't realise the mother took the cardi off the child. Your OP read as if she got the girl to take off the cardi to put on the girl's head.

It wasn't cold where we are and ds spent most of the day outside inappropriately dressed. Mind you he wears shorts to school so he is probably hardier than most.

difficultpickle · 07/05/2012 23:55

I would have said something if I thought the same as the OP.

bejeezus · 07/05/2012 23:55

Education has got nothing to do with child neglect/abuse/being a crap mother...

Well educated people are better parents??? Hmm

manicbmc · 07/05/2012 23:56

I see this sort of thing a lot at school, usually because a child gets dropped off and picked up in a nice warm car, daft parent forgets they have to go out at playtime.

TeaTeaLotsOfTea · 08/05/2012 00:01

I didn't mean it as bad academic education I meant it as educated in life as to how to be a good parent.

katykuns · 08/05/2012 00:02

The woman the OP spoke of is horrid... there is no excuse for it.
However, the parents that don't dress their kids properly aren't all malicious. My sister is terrible, will send her children around in a tshirt when everyone is wearing a coat (including herself). She just doesn't seem to realise somehow :(

My daughter has gone through phases with not wanting to wear a coat etc. I haven't let her go places/do things she wants if she refuses and it is cold! She is stubborn but has learnt it's not worth fighting because Mummy is just as stubborn

Earthymama · 08/05/2012 00:05

I think that as parents just get out of the car then run in the rain to work or wherever they don't realise that if you use public transport you need a coat or wellies.
Makes me v cross too. Sad

runningforthebusinheels · 08/05/2012 00:06

Yep, that would upset me. On occasion I have had to wrestle my children into raincoats etc, but what the op saw is just awful. 'Give me your cardi, shivering, wet dd 'cos I don't want me hair ruined' Shock

pumpkinsweetie · 08/05/2012 00:45

Sounds like a mum in my area!!
She has two girls and they go to a school near my dcs- rain, shine, snow-no coat, skirts, ankle socks -you can c them shivvering from across the road its awful.
Maybe this woman is too tight to buy her kids a coat and a few pairs of tights/trousers!!Sad absolutely selfish imo considering the mother wears thick coat & jeans Angry

thatisall · 08/05/2012 02:48

I have lost count of the number of times that dd and I have been caught out by crappy weather. I have also lost count of the times that I have taken off my outer layers, quite frankly risking pneumonia in order to wrap up my little one in them! I would have wanted to slap her to....her and Cerys Matthews...ver ver smug woman.

Never mind some mothers do 'ave 'em....some children do 'ave 'em.

Morloth · 08/05/2012 03:19

Some people suck and as suckiness and then those people have children. Having children isn't some magic wand that suddenly makes you a better person.

sashh · 08/05/2012 03:33

Some parents beat their children and their parents never beat them so that isn't learnt. You chose to be responsible one day but not the next???

Or responsible with one child and not another.

Original poster
toofattorun · 08/05/2012 09:08

People getting "caught out" in bad weather are different from a mother who dresses warmly and then takes a piece of clothing from an already shivering child to protect her precious hair. I dress my kids in layers and remove/add where necessary. It's really not that hard.

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DeWe · 08/05/2012 12:42

Grin Dd1 used to refuse to wear a coat. So I let her decide. A couple of times of being cold and she since then is more inclined to take her coat with me saying that it's hot she won't need it.
Dd2 hates wearing a coat as a coat is bulky and it restricts the use of her little arm (she doesn't have a hand one side) so she will choose to be cold rather than restrict it.

LondonNinja · 08/05/2012 13:24

She sounds like a thick idiot, frankly. Moron. How can you see a child shivering and be such a selfish twat as the mother of that kid?

jubilee10 · 08/05/2012 13:48

What iscream said.

kerala · 08/05/2012 14:14

I judged an academic middle class looking woman in North Oxford dressed up warmly with 18 month old strapped into a buggy with totally bare feet. THey were in central town so unlikely to have just popped out. It was cold, really cold, just above freezing. I know little kids take their shoes and socks off but is possible to get shoes they can't remove. No excuse for that.

Debsbear · 08/05/2012 14:20

I see a lot of mothers wearing coats and with kids in buggies (ie. not moving round to keep warm) who are dressed more like a fashion show - obviously putting a coat over the top would ruin the affect. YANBU, there really are some crap mothers out there. Out of interest, my 12 and 13 year olds won't wear coats - ever. Hope that doesn't make me a crap mother as well!

flyingspaghettimonster · 08/05/2012 14:35

I keep failing on the clothing front. It can be grey here in the morning, so I dress them in long sleeves, tights etc. by pick up it can be in the 30's and they get mad at me for over dressing them.

I could never let a child shiver while I had removable items they could use though.

I saw a mom and child yesterday at the foodbank... Kid was no older than 4, dressed filthily, came over to my toddler to play with his toys. The mom stormed over, forced ho to give back the toys my child was happy to.share, and said 'do I need to uses the ruler?!' In an aggressive way. She then sat there with an old fashioned wooden ruler, slapping it against her hand waiting for the poor kid to misbehave. I wanted to adopt him right there...

NoMoreStressedThanUsual · 08/05/2012 17:29

,ZZZZZZ\

LoveHandles88 · 08/05/2012 17:45

Pretty sure Cerys cannot solely be blamed for a relationship break up?????????? The selfish mother sounds horrid though. YANBU about that.

LeQueen · 08/05/2012 17:46

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thebody · 08/05/2012 17:57

Vile bitch, We were on boliday in saundersfoot once and with 4 Dcs and they had got out of the sea, it was cold and they came shivering up beach, cue me 4 huge towels, rolls and hot tea!!

Child by us a gorgeous little girl sat crying with cold while mom
Had a fag and then threw a wet towel round her, I offered her one of ours and she had grace to look ashamed, cow!!

LondonNinja · 08/05/2012 17:58

LeQueen that is so depressing. I despair. Why do these idiots bother having children?!?!?!?! I don't get it.

Horsemad · 08/05/2012 18:06

A woman I know refused to apply for a better secondary school for her DD as it would involve the child travelling by bus and she (the mother) 'wasn't getting up half an hour earlier to get the child out to school when there was a school in the village that would do just as well that she could walk to.'

Five years later and she was in the hairdressers last week bemoaning the fact that her DD has had to have extra tutoring and the school is now in special measures, blah blah blah.

I just laughed to myself and thought 'hmm, bet you wish you'd got up early to send her to the other school now, don't you you lazy cow!'