To think that Statements of Arrangements for the Children aren't worth the paper they are written on?!

[sensuallettuce]

I had to have one of these when I divorced my ex but the day after it was all finalised he basically tore it up and said he isn't going to do anything he's agreed to do.

Can I threaten to take him back to court using the SOAFC as a starting point and to make him stop messing me about or was the whole exercise just a massive waste of time?

It depends.

You can stop him taking the kids when he shouldn't (as per arrangements) but you can't force him to see them if he doesn't want to.

Hmm that's what I thought .

It's crap how he can just dump everything that he doesn't want to do onto me affects my working patterns and everything

They say they won't force a parent to see their kids but effectively he is forcing me to take 100% responsibility.

I love my kids but when they were born they had two parents - its crap how an absent parent can opt out and treating like a bloody hobby .

I know

And on top of that, the children will still love them unconditionally...often seeing them as more fun than the 'boring sensible' parent who looks after them through thick and thin.

Yes - and I get described as a psycho because I am very very .