to think "but it's MY turn!!!"

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DPs car has just about given up - so we're looking for a new one. Way it's worked to date is that we've taken turns in having the new car. We've got 2 cars - he was last to get a new car, even though it's his we'll be trading in. My current car is OK - but would like something bigger for taxiing the kids about in. I use my car much more than he does his. When we first talked about getting a new one we (I think!) agreed he'd take mine and I'd get a new one.

He has forgotten this and is getting very excited about his new car . He earns much more than me (I've gone part-time) - but we have joint finances.

It's MY TURN!!!!!

Tell him you need a more reliable carry to ferry your kids about in,you don't want it breaking down in the middle of nowhere do you?

I can understand your frustration but if his car is that bad it makes sense for that to be the one you change otherwise it will cost a small fortune to keep on the road.

I assume changing both isn't a possibility?

They don't need to change both, he has the OPs car and they get a new one which is more suited to the needs of the family.

OP, YANBU BTW.

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YABU to think it, YABU to moan on MN.

Remind him that it is your turn. Now.

Move on

'he has forgotten'
Remind him!

Well when he's looking at cars steer him in direction of nice boring family mobile

sirzy they are changing DP's car but what OP wants is that the new car goes to her and her current car goes to DP.

OP just remind him of what you talked about and do it soon so he doesn't say "well why didn't you say before when you saw me getting all excited"

Sounds a bit childish of you op tbh!

why is it childish if it's what they agreed?

yes it is a bit childish - of course it's a bit childish! (Is there anything wrong with being a bit childish now and again??) I want a nice shiny new car!! AIBU to want a shiny new car???? Having said that - given that he hardly uses his car (sits in the drive) I'll just use it anyway....

X post with IAmBooyhoo - she's right of course it's not childish.....

I think it is a bit childish tbh, but if that's been the agreement that's always been in place, the situation being childish doesn't negate the want to stick to the arrangement.

Have you reminded DH? No point stamping your feet online if you haven't reminded him.

Is it possible that your car is not suitable for him?

Remind him!

I think it depends how you use them though - are you both insured on each other's cars? Does it being 'your turn' mean you get to choose (and overrule his choices), or do you chose together and then it's you who will mostly drive it?

Also, is it financially at all possible to trade in both and both get slightly less swish, but newer cars? It sounds as if maybe you could manage that?