To need help to stay calm

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

In a&e with dc5. He has cracked his head. He is chirpy but I may lose control.
I do not cope well although I am the picture of calm.
This is my least favourite place int the whole world

They are going to think I did it to him if I do not compose myself

Oh MdV, big sympathies, I wouldn't feel calm either and i don't have the reasons you do to hate hospitals so much. Of COURSE they won't think you did it to him. Hand hold x

You will be fine, he will be fine. Is there someone who could come and sit with you maybe?
Sorry I'm not helpful lots more calming will be here soon I'm sure!

Have pm'd you xx

Hey, just deep breaths, count to 3 slowly as you breathe in through the nose, then out to 6 through the nose. Try trapping your temples gently with your finger tips if no one will see you and get hold of some water to sip.

Kids have accidents, it's what they do. You'll both be fine xx

Tapping your temples, not trapping. Not sure how one would trap a temple. It might resemble an Indiana Jones film...

Oh MrsDV, you can hold my hand if you like. I was just the same when dd broke her wrist at 18 months old and I don't have anywhere near as much reason to hate hospitals as you do.

It will be be fine though, they aren't going to think you did it, they are going to think you are a loving, but very worried mum. The consultant said when I was in there with dd, "Don't fret, little ones do this sort of thing all the time - and if they didn't I'd be out of a job".

Are you on your own there? If I could I'd come and sit with you - but I'm afraid you'll have to make do with my virtual hand hold instead.

You've got two threads. And breathe. Go and explain what happened and how scared you are and they will realise they need to look after both of you because if mummy is at ease and cared for it will be good for dc 5.

God bless - thinking of you.

I would have hoped that being upset would make someone more likely to think it was nothing to do you with (at least, not actively); don't worry about having a little cry if you need to. You are probably in shock.

FWIW my parents were 'looked in to' after my Dad fell over while carrying me and then I toppled over and hit my head on the skirting board about a week later. The latter I had blood coming out everywhere (as you always do)... nothing happened to my parents or my brain.

Sending supportive vibes your way, Mrs.