Aibu not to let dh borrow my car?

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Well...stbxh really. We have split but are living together for now while I try and sort somewhere else for me and the kids. He spirals between being really nice and constructive about how we are going to make things work when we are living apart to blaming and just being as nasty as he can. Refusing to have dc so I can go in the bath. Storming out bit saying where he's g

Going. Screaming at me that my family are mongs. That I'm a dick and he hopes I never have another relationship so I can't ruin anyOne else's life.

Then suddenly in the midst of a tirade yesterday he says he wants to borrow my car because apparently his brake dont work, his car isn't take and he can't afford to fix it. I was so pussed off I said no. Cue furious rants about how I am trying to damage the dcs relationship with his mum.i am manipulative etc.

I felt guilt so this morning I offered to drive him there. He says no now he can tell his mum exactly whatno am like.

Was I so unreasonable?

YANBU

He can get the bus.

I was all ready to say YABU based on the title, but hell no, YANBU! In those circumstances I wouldn't lend him so much as a square of toilet paper.

YANBU at all if he's got that attitude.

The sooner you two can live apart, the better for all of you...especially the kids

YANBU-couldn´t he move out-now??

Let him have the car, then change the fucking locks on the house.

He sounds like one of the vilest exuses for a human I've ever heard of.

YANBU. You offered to drive his ffs, you are being the exact opposite of unreasonable!

I hope you find somewhere to live soon. I remember what it was like in that wierd period of time after splitting up but not being able to completely move on and your ex is acting like a dick. Its horrible having your life in limbo and having to walk on eggshells, which doesn't keep the peace anyway.

Mong? Never let him use the car again. Use of that word is totally unacceptable.

I know it's awful and I can't help but get angry when I know I should just ignore him but he knows what wil push my buttons.

After I offered him the lift he refuse and made a huge palava of driving over his dodgy car (because I MADE him ) to go and collect their car to bring here I pick up ds. So I was going to go out but Waite with da for him to come back ( pil live 10 mins away) an hour later he calls to say his dad is out he'll come back then and his mum is hearing all about how awfulnk am. The. Another hour he later he storms in saying look at the situation I am creating. Trying to use the children as pawns (I'm really not), that it's no wonde I have no friends and that I tried to kill myself (a long time ago) that he hates me and can't control himself to be nice to me. I kept saying 'stop it' just go to your mums. Then he wouldn't go until input the car seat over for him (he knows how) and then said he would be N hour I should be b k when he gets in I look after dc so he can bring car back. I said fine them j will be going out when you get back but then he got furious again and refused saying he would be going out not be and I'm a manipulative bitch. He talk to dc as well saying 'don't worry I'll get you away from this woman' and things like that. I don't want him to shout in front of dc but can't make him stop and when I try and walk away he follows me - even into the garden - refusing to atop unless I talk I him(let him shout at me)

He's bat his mums now and dreading him coming back. I just know he is saying all kinds of horrible thing about me to his parents too.

I don't think I'm awful but he makes me doubt myself.

He keeps saying I'm so evil

Diddl - he won't move out so I am but haven't managed to sort it yet .

This man sounds horrible! I'd do some research into women's refuges near you and try and get into one. Have you seen a solicitor yet?

Thans for replying, on have seen a solicitor to find out about divorcing and wherein would stand financially. I'm in the process of buying a house but can't move there yet. He's been ok for the last week and then yesterday and today vile. I feel genus trying to control me and I don't want to let him just walk all over me.

Oh what a horrid man :( I'd get some legal advice quick sharp, and see if you can turf him out. Is it a rental, or a mortgaged property?

Sorry x posted.

YANBU! It's your car, hide the fucking keys. I hate it when they drag the kids into it, what an arsehole. Sorry for swearing, but how dare he?!

Dodgy brakes you say? Sounds perfect!

So long as your DCs are not in the car at the time that is. He sounds like a complete nightmare - I wouldn't be lending him my pen, let alone my car!

Glad to hear you will be moving elsewhere soon OP.

He sounds horrible.

I think you are completely right not to lend it him. If you're worried he'll keep pestering, you can ring up the insurance people and get him taken off - they might even get you a refund of part of the cost?

Glad you will soon be out of it.