selling on hand me downs

[rhibutterfly]

my friend has given me loads of baby items, pram,moses basket, highchairs,bath,walkers.She didn't ask for anything but because they wwere big items i felt i had to re-compensate her in some way for my own peace of mind,i planned on giving her £50 but ended up charging her £50 instead of £100 for a new 12 foot trampoline i bought a couple of months earlier for £240. I now want to buy a pram of my own choosing, don't want to use the walkers ,don't need the bath etc, would i be unreasonable to try and sell the pram to make some money back , i'm thinking if i make more than £50 i can give my friend the excess

would the items she had given you cost more that £240???

So she gave you a load of fairly large/pricey baby bits for free...then you charged her £50 for a second hand trampoline? Now you want to also profit by selling her stuff that she gave you for FREE? YABU. Give it back!

I think you should check with her first tbh. I was given lots for dd, some I returned, some I sold on ebay to pay for the next lot of equipment, but always with the original owners consent. Hth

no i dont think you should have give her the price differeance, theres no need at all, essp since you have actually paid her for them.
i would sell guilt free.

Why not ask her ?
Say what you've said here - say 'do you want them back or would you like me to try and sell them and perhaps we could split what we get ?'

Why did you take them if you don't want them?

If someone gave me big baby equipment I'd ask them first if they wanted it back before ebaying it.

raffle i am with you on this one...

No No No! Did you discuss any of this with her? Never ever sell something you are GIVEN it's just wrong!

Any chance you could carboot it with her? Tell het your plans, suggest you have a fun afternoon together, she'll prob have more stuff lined up to give you, which she can sell instead.... Everybody wins, non?

i gave one of my sisters every item of baby stuff (except pram) before she had her first baby.... when i was expecting dc 6 i asked if her if she still had it and if so could i have them back...she then asked me to buy it off her, needless to say i refused and our relationship beoke down entirely...i seen it as a massive kick in the teeth

She did ask me if i wanted stuff she had as she needed to get rid of them as they were taking up space she needed, i did point out at the time that i probably wouldn't use the pram as i want a parent facing one but she said i was doing her a favour taking them out of her way, she wasn't worried about the money because her ex paid for them,not her and she was happy to pay for the trampoline and tried to offer more,am actually still keeping the trampoline for her (even though it's in the way) and i'm having lots of hassle of DP who wanted to sell it to someone else because she took so long to actually come up with money, she wasn't as ready garden-wise as she realised and the trampoline will be here (packed up, not being used) til next summer, probably as she's having extension on her house.Will offer stuff back.

is this a wind up????

Thinking about it from other side IABU just remember i gave another friend baby equipment and now remember being a bit peeved when she said she'd passed them on, but i had said at time i wasn't planning any more children

No not a wind up, was thinking of ways to make money to get the money for pram i'd like.

So she gave you lots of big, expensive baby stuff for free.

You want to sell it.

And you charged her 50quid for a second hand trampoline?

Nice

Tbh you need to either give them back to her or if you ask
If she minds you selling them you need to give her most of what you make

Yes i have said i realise I am being unreasonable and will give them back

rogers have privated messaged you x

I'm still getting over the face that doormat gave her sister a load of kit for free and then said sister tried to sell it back to her x 100

I buy and sell loads of stuff on ebay. I also have been lucky enough to get a lot of hand-me-downs but I have a kind of rule with myself that I won't sell anything that has been given to me for free - I just hand it on to the next person.

I just freecycled a sofa that I could have got a couple of hundred for on ebay for precisely this reason. It just wouldn't feel right to profit from it.