To think my dh is completely stupid.

[Gentleness]

In some respects at least. In many others he is the kindest man alive. But then he does something so unutterably foolish I want to explode.

This lunchtime he made the food. He very kindly made me pasta as I was so hungry (early pg), brought it to me and then did the washing up. Sounds amazing yes? Just now I was sorting the laundry and he asked me what he should do with the leftover pasta. What? He brought me such a tiny portion and didn't mention there was any extra! I asked if it was in the fridge - no - out on the stove-top, heating on so really not safe to be standing around 5hrs. So he throws it away - enough to feed the whole family! Seriously! 4 portions of pasta just straight in the bin. Idiot. Just after a conversation about how I am trying to cut grocery costs.

You must buy really nasty pasta if 4 portions costs 40p.

Are you maybe feeling a little less tolerant than you otherwise would be?

My DH is very clever but he does things that seem daft to me-
One thing that really made me think about the way I spoke to him was early on in us living together; he was mashing some spuds for us and said 'are they done?' I looked and said 'Yep, you're finished' so he left.
I was miffed because what I meant and thought was just so freakin' obvious was 'you are fininshed mashing now please get the plates and serve it up and then place the pan and utensils in the sink', he thought 'I'm finished'. He literally took his hands off the pan and masher and walked away - who was daft? Him for following instructions or me for not making clear what I wanted him to do?

Common sense differs between people but also the way things are done - you may always mention extras, he may be used to going to help himself for example.

There are some long days ahead if you get so aggravated over simple communication errors. A baby is not an easy master as you may already know.

as you already well know even.

Also DH goes 'gormless' at me on purpose if he's feeling objectionable. I generally take it as a sign I'm being a bit of a mare. Bloody irritating though.

YABU, You could have still eaten the pasta even though it had been left out. Also why didn't you ask if there was anymore or gone tnto the kitchen yourself.

An update! I am so struggling with this pg, especially as I've to date had 4mc and suspect a problem this time - but am still getting all the exhaustion and grottiness. My legs are even killing me - what is that about?

Dh, the amazing star that he is, has let me have the full day in bed. I've managed 10mins reading or sat up for 10mins and then just passed out again for a couple of hours. He's dealt with the kids, bringing the baby in for bm when needed, taking them out AND just attempted his very first roast dinner.

I know tomorrow I'll have to drag my lazy butt out of bed and will no doubt find much clearing and cleaning to do (even he admits he's used every surface in the kitchen) but for now I am just soooo grateful that he's a trier and that I've had a proper rest.

YAB a bit U to be married to someone who you think is "completely stupid" - if that is really what you think.