AIBU to stop DH parents from giving gifts to the baby please read first.

[LilQueenie]

ok heres the thing. his brother picks up crap basically from backs of shops and from bins yuck! he has in the past tried to give baby items and I point blank refused. The house is stacked with stuff and it cant be clean (think hoarders tv series and u understand) how can you clean around stacked up stuff right? His mum apparanty buys stuff for the baby but it all looks used to me and I cant trust her when she says it is from the charity shop as they have lied inthe past. I do feel rotten but want better for my daughter than to have items that may have been from or potentially been in amongst dirty crap. BTW his bro lives with his parents. AIBU?

Why don't you clean/wash the items?

because I saw what was in one of his masses of piles and refused to set foot in the house again. (rat piss and menstrual blood bluergh.)

I assume your baby isn't here yet? Get on with buying everything you need, tell them, "thanks, but we have everything we need, and we don't have space for anything else." if it's clothes etc, at least you can put them through a hot wash (if they shrink, so be it, best to be certain) otherwise, don't accept it. Or you could tell your MIL "we have everything except clothes" -that might give them an idea of what to go and get without saying 'no' to everything.

Ok, I thought it would be just dust, general dirt not rat piss and blood!!

insert vomit face here

In that case, no, I wouldn't accept anything either unless I was positive it had been nowhere near that house YANBU

God, no, yanbu to not want your house filled with junk, your daughter is just the excuse to dump that crap on you.

baby has been here for 10months but it hasnt stopped his mother bringing stuff in including food for him. Ive told him not to bring anything in from that house. Thing is they say the house is clean. funny that cause you cant clean a house if you cant find a surface can you!

they tried to dump stuff on use before DD too. I went into the shed took the baby stuff and trashed it. FFS he even sells that crap at a local market. Apparantly anyone who thinks its wrong is either a snob or jelaous

oh they sound vile I would take the stuff and bin it ,

Is it like that episode in Friends when Ross freaks out at his messy girlfriend and kills her hamster?!!

gumby i have no idea what you are on about?

Gumby, sounds like it!!! Although on the odd occasion, my house used to look a bit like that .

well she does have mice in the kitchen which she seems fond of