To feel we need to move location to get peace from in laws

[Ticklemonster2]

For 10 years we have had problems with my in laws (MIL and SIL). Last weeks events have left me cold and doubting things will ever be any better.
To cut a long story short, last week my DH and I had a row. He called his sister telling her all about the row who then came to our house, was rude to me, bossed me about and then left. Meanwhile my brother popped in on his way back from holiday. While he was here I explained what had happened with my SIL and he felt it was very bad behaviour. While he was here my MIL came over. Not realising we were here (and listening) she started running me down and being very malicious. My brother was shocked and said that he felt this was very manipulative and divisive.
I am disgusted with my in laws.
This week MIL ,who knows now that I heard what was said, has been nagging to see us and our Ds. There has been no apology, nothing. This has happened many times now. They have both been malicious before and there has been one instance of physical assault from my MIL.
Advice please. I don't think I can put up with it anymore.

It's your husbands fault for involving his family in his relationship problems. They should have enough sense to mind their own business but obviously they have no other way to fill their pathetic lives. Leaving the area won't solve the problem, leaving him will. Why are you not furious with him for bitching about you behind your back to his family? He's practically invited them in to bully you.

Agree with the majority- your H was to blame in this case. Why did he feel the need to share whatever you were arguing about with his family if he knows their behaviour towards you.
At the end of day, you are his wife and the mother of his child, for me his loyalty should lie with you. I'm not saying he has to cut them off (although in your shoes I'd probably prefer that) but he has to find his balls, stop telling them shit they don't need to know, tell them clearly to stay out of your relationship and stand up for you.
Tell him you feel you need to get away from them- with or without him and that you feel he is choosing them over his own family.
Sounds like an awful place you're in at the moment, hope you get it sorted xx

Sorry to hear about this, OP. I have to agree your husband is the main one at fault in this particular situation and enough is enough, as far as you're concerned.
The SIL and MIL sound unhinged. Who do they think they are and why do they get so over-involved? Have they got nothing going on in their own lives? Honestly, they sound worse than the Mitchellls in Eastenders!

I think you have misunderstood. My brother was not told, he turned up to drop holiday gifts off on his way home from a two week holiday. He was here when MIL turned up and heard what was going on.
I too don't involve my family in troubles as I'm an adult and can sort things out myself.

Oh yeah, and I am totally furious, upset, hurt... By Hs betrayed and am finding it hard to trust or forgive. There will be no more family events with in laws and only minimal contact now. Enough is enough.

You are right to feel as you do, 100% justified.

You need a serious deal breaking conversation with H. Enough was Enough a long time ago, right around when you got hit.

I'm so sorry yoy're going through this.

You and H have to agree very clear boundaries regarding the in-laws. If the in-laws cross those boundaries then they need to know that both of you will enforce them. In other words if they don't treat you with respect then you and H will cut contact immediately. Likewise H needs to know that there will be consequences if he doesn't 100% support what you have both agreed to.

Hope you're ok OP.

We moved 200 miles away from my FIL and his heinous wife. Best thing we ever did.

Hope things are better today op

I wouldn't be forced out of my home, but I am stubborn and this is my home.

Op I feel for you