aibu to think my dh is being a heartless pig about this?

[levington]

I've been having gut trouble for weeks now. Had a scan which revealed a gallstone, doc exiplained that gallstone may not actually be causing symptoms and has ruled out anything serious so great. She has advised low-fat diet for now all the same. NOT a criticism of doc-she's doing her best.
My dh, however, moaned to me this morning that he 'supposed' restaurants were now 'out of the question' and has been in a mood with me.
I'm so pissed off with this: here I am scared and don't know what the is wrong and he is moaning about restaurants.
AIBU?

He could be a heartless pig. Or he could be scared and unable to talk about it.

But I'm sure you can find restaurants that don't sell exclusively high-fat meals!

He sounds lovely .

YANBU

YANBU.

You can still eat out
He probably just wants to make the most if the bank holiday weekend

I'm just so upset about it; I'm in fear of a potential op and haven't a clue what is wrong and he is going on about not being able to eat out.

Have you expressed your fears to him? What was his response?

Of course YANBU!

Tell him to go and eat out on his own if he's that bothered!

Point him to some reading material about gallstones - NHS web-site is usually helpful but really, the more sensational the better - then casually point out that gallstones are more common in men and that about 40% of men are likely to get them at some point (made up statistic). His empathy level might suddenly change.

Of course many restaurants offer low fat options or will be happy to advise but, really!

What an arse. Is he normally this much of a selfish twat?

I hope you are OK. Go for a second opinion if you are still worried :)

If it's any consolation, the gallbladder op is a doddle. In and out same day with less discomfort than having a root canal filling done.

Thanks all. Oh and yes, he is well aware of the nights of pain I've endured over the weeks.

Ah yes, the 2.00am wake ups feeling like I was being stabbed in the back. I remember them well.

It's not a stabbing pain but thanks for reassurance about ease of operation all the same.

Just wanted reassurance that I'm not being the unreasonable one and it seems I am not so thanks.

It is ridiculously unreasonable to be in a mood with you. What on earth is wrong with him? It's not your fault that this is happening and he should show some damn sympathy rather than worrying about meals out.

Tell him to stop being so selfish.

i have read about citrus juices being good for dissolving gall stones. might be worth looking into (with advice from gp of course)
maybe dp had a special meal planned?

Blimey, you're not married to my ex are you? He left me writhing in fever and agony in the car whilst he stopped and had a full meal at the motorway services. When I eventually saw the doctor, I was told I had scarlet fever and had a rash and needed antibiotics

Sounds a bit like what my OH does, as in

Ohmygodshe'sbeentothedoctershe'sgoingtodiewhatamIgoingtoIcan'tdothissI'mgoingtopretendit'snothappeningandhaveastroptoshwI'mnotshittingmyself!

Could that be the case? either way a low fat diet isn't impossible to do. I would reassure him that he can continue to clog up his arteries to his heart's content, despite the fact that you need to be sensible about your food intake. Or words to that effect

I hope you start feeling better soon

maybe he thinks you are milking the situation and want all the attention, some people do certainly milk being poorly and perhaps need to be a little stoical sometimes!

YANBU, he should be more concerned with your health than with meals out!
You can eat low-fat when you go out though but the food is more boring.

Good point Geranium3, is a big whinger himself? People who are often expect others to be too, so if you haven't behaved as if you're dying, you can't have anything serious wrong.

It's taken DP a long time to learn (when he remembers) that I don't make a fuss about small things and go quiet when something is really wrong, so he does need to believe me when I tell him about this.