Time off work on compassionate grounds

[Acer76]

Is this unreasonable?

Today I phoned my workplace( a small family Pharamacy) to tell them that my daughters daddy died today( I have mentioned his death in another thread). I don't work on a Thursday, so I spoke to the wife and told her the news. I had a few oohh's and aahhhs and I said I couldn't come in Friday p/t or Saturday allday( I work 9 to 5.30, with 1 hr for lunch) because I needed to be with my daughter. She said' oh Friday is ok as other people are there, but can I still go in on the Saturday and take my Dd with me!!!!!!! (It has been a sad and tearful day) and I started getting very upset and said' B I can't believe you just said that, my 11 yr old daughters daddy has just died today, I really can't believe you said that(again) and she said oooh sorry, I said 'I am going now' and I put the phone down. I have only been there 6 months. On a Saturday, most of the day is cleaning until about 3/3.30pm. To them, I am the lowest in the pecking order, but I don't want to talk to much about their attitude.
Afterwards I was so angry and the air was blue in my house. Last week I started to look for another job, as I can't stand the job or them any more. They were informed a few months ago about how ill Dd's dadwas, and he won't leave hospital alive. I know if it was another member of staff, that has been there years, the outcome would of been so different. Thanks for the rant ps The wife's brother died 10 days ago, he had cancer and she rushed off to London to be with the rest of the family. It seems to be one law for them and a different one for me :(

I'm so sorry to hear that

And yes, they're being very VERY unreasonable

YANBU to be upset, she was being quite insensitive.

I'm sorry about your dd's dad, I hope that you're all ok.

Thanks jinsei and WorraLiberty, my next working day is on Tuesday and I'm hating the thought of going there already, I have to bite my lip quite alot and it is causing me a lot of stress and some medical problems but I'm on my own and in my 50's, so jobs are pretty difficult to come by, at my age ;) lol

You called her a bitch?

I'm not sure where you stand legally about compassionate leave, I believe it may only be for immediate family.

I don't think it's a legal requirement at all, is it? But from a moral point of view, I think it's pretty low not to show compassion to someone in the OP's situation - she may no longer have been in a relationship with the person who has died, but her daughter has just lost her father FFS!

Did the OP call her employer a bitch? That's not how I read it, but obviously that would have been pretty rude. But what kind of person puts the needs of their own business over those of a bereaved child? I'd have covered myself in the business owner's situation.

Teeb The word BITCH was never mentioned , I didn't even type that word????????? so where did that come from ? and any child in that position does deserve compassionate leave!!!!!! Yes

Her name starts with B**and I won't type her full name, if that's what you mean Teeb

Thanks jinsei for your support, the B** is her name as I won't disclose her name on a forum and the 3 letter's ,above, as I understand it,does not spell the word Bitch :o

Acer, I wouldn't expect you in work until Tuesday, and then I would think you would need another day off to be with your dd on the funeral day

they are being unreasonable

I thought you mean a name bginning with "B" too, not bitch