To move where I want

[Binxy]

Im splitting up with my husband. Things have been dire for ages and were now living together but it's veery frosty and awkward. My parents have offered to help me buy a house for 2 ds (one age 2 and one going to secondary school next September ) and I.

At the moment we live 10 mins drive from school in a really not nice area. I have looked at moving closer to school, which is a lovely area. But to be there id have to live next to a council estate in a tiny house as that's all I coul afford. It would mean that ds would be able to walk to school though and see friends who live there. Best friend also lives further away.

I've seen a house I love in a lovely rural area that is much bigger. Ds would have o get a bus to school though as again this place is 10 minutes drive from school.

My stbxh thinks I should move closer to school and his patents are making out I only care about wanting a nice house for myself and ray I'm not considering ds s at all :(

I so want to do the right thing but am confused. I want to move ASAP as the atmosphere is awful fOr the kids.

Am I being unreasonable to want to move where I want?

Sorry for the typos!

What's wrong with living near a 'council estate'?

Your daughter is old enough to get on a bus for a 10 minute ride by herself, buy the house you like (involve your DD in your decision, I bet she'll go for a bigger house). 10 minutes isn't very far is it, it's not like you areintending sending her to boarding school or moving to the other end of the country. Follow your heart

It's none of your stbxh where you move because you are not moving far enough for contact to be an issue, do what is best for you and the children, a bigger house in a more rural area the same distance as the school is now sounds fab.

Could you not move in with your parents/find short term lease for a couple of months? You sound a bit frazzled, it may not be the best time to make a big house buying decision. You need some head space first.

YANBU. I understand that you weren't meaning to initiate a council-house-bashing thread; you want to do the right thing for you and your DCs. The new area sounds lovely and a 10-minute drive to school is NOTHING. It will not stop your DS having a social life!

YANBU it sounds like you've found a house you really love. A ten minute bus ride is not arduous, and definitely not a problem for a secondary school child. It is hardly going to isolate them from their peers either. I really can't see what your ex and his family are complaining about other than perhaps they'd see the wrong in anything at the moment. It is how it is at this stage of a break up.

I'd go for the bigger house every time, especially with two boys at such different ages. You'll find the space a godsend.