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To wonder why I'm keeping the peace and not telling her to get lost?

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nespresso · 02/05/2012 22:38

I have a female family member who has some issues. She keeps attempting to create rifts and arguements within the family.

There are alot of females in our family - not always a good thing! We all have families, children.

This particular family member is the eldest of all of us, amongst our generation, and is the only one without children. I mention this because I can't help but think it contributes to what she does.

She has called me this evening and said some not very nice things, over ridiculous claims such as, 'I spoke in the wrong tone of voice to her father last week" (He was being completely inappropriate at the time).

Had she been anyone else I would have told her where to go and put the phone down. But I listened and then told her I would still love to see her this week end ?!

Does anyone else have an impossible family member like this? How do you deal with them? I have gone from angry to frustrated to really upset today, I'm so fed up. I'm also 8 months pregnant and SO annoyed that she has started with her nonsense again and made me feel like this.

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 08/05/2012 17:44

You don't "have to see her" at all. Just tell the truth "I don't like the way she behaves and I don't want to see her" - you're a grown up, you get to choose who comes to your home and where you go. Just ignore her completely. Get a new sim card for your phone and screen her calls to your landline. Refuse to engage with her. Once you've done it once it will get easier every time.

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