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AIBU?

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Original poster

Just got sacked by my husband

27 replies

thatisall · 01/05/2012 23:43

Am I being unreasonable to open a bottle of wine right now at this time on a school night.

My new husband just had to 'let me go'.

It was me or lots members of staff....he did give me a fair bit of warning that it might happen. I'm sure it was as hard for him as it was for me, in some ways harder (he was nearly crying bless him).

This economy sucks

Either everyone goes and we shut up shop or we trim a few k a month of the outgoings, so along with our office, car...I go too lol. my work will be divvied out amongst the other staff. He was well aware that I would prefer it to be me that went rather than anybody else, we'd talked about it before, but it still feels horrible.

I'm not in the gutter, but I know it will be hard to find another job as so many people are in the same boat right now......so AIBU to resort to wine??

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boringnickname · 01/05/2012 23:46

YABU you need wine AND chocolate, oh, and some of these Thanks

Meow75isknittinglikemad · 01/05/2012 23:47

I'll provide the Wine

I'm sorry for this horrible situation. Didn't wanna read and run.

sunnydelight · 01/05/2012 23:47

Of course YANBU to resort to wine - have a glass for me (it's breakfast time here!).

Hopefully things will pick up and you can get your job back but meanwhile I guess your DH (and you) need to do everything you can to keep afloat. Good luck.

QuacksForDoughnuts · 01/05/2012 23:48

How awful for both of you. Resorting to wine looks like the sensible option for this evening! (just let the hangover clear before writing any job apps, they don't mix...)

TastesLikePanda · 01/05/2012 23:52

That really sucks :(

You know what I would do? I would get bladdered have a glass of wine then write the worlds funniest 'resignation' letter. Obviously don't be mean to your Dh but pretend you are writing to 'Mr Smith' at 'shitcorp' and write all the things you have ever wanted to write in a resignation letter but never could without burning a few bridges...

I have an odd sense of humour though...

Original poster
thatisall · 02/05/2012 00:00

tastes that is a bloody brilliant idea. I know he feels properly terrible right now. We only got married 2 1/2 weeks ago :-(

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pippop1 · 02/05/2012 00:10

At least you will be able to count on a good reference from your former employer!

Sorry to hear about your redundancy.

TastesLikePanda · 02/05/2012 00:14

Yay! I helped!

If you can post it on here for us all to have a good laugh at proofread as well, that wouuld be awesome!

Congrats on the wedding! Wine Thanks

Original poster
thatisall · 02/05/2012 00:25

Dear Mr thatisall
It is with regret that I must write this letter of resignation.

My working conditions are appalling, but my main issue is my superior who has been sexually harassing me since my first day.

I will work my notice period, but expect outstanding references, flowers and unlimited personal favours as compensation for my harrowing experience as your employee.

Yours
thatisall

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TastesLikePanda · 02/05/2012 00:35

I like!

LadyBabsWalthamCuddles · 02/05/2012 00:43

I like it Grin

And it's funny, so should cheer him up

LadyBabsWalthamCuddles · 02/05/2012 00:44

Was he your boss before you got together or were you together when he started being your boss?

Original poster
thatisall · 02/05/2012 00:46

We were together and then I came to work for him. Needed someone he could trust as it was a fairly new company, growing quick. Too quickly it seems. :-(

But like I say, we're all in the same boat at the moment aren't we.

ps. I'm such a romantic at heart.
pps. never post on mums net under influence of wine lol

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LadyBabsWalthamCuddles · 02/05/2012 00:48

aww
Quick is good in the long run

Why, what have you done?

Original poster
thatisall · 02/05/2012 00:55

theres another thread, about twitter. I posted info on there that is all over twitter but obv the wrong thing to do in this forum.

Just wasn't thinking. Not the wine tbh as I've only just opened but obi Im a bit distracted today...or maybe just genuinely stupid today.

Have reported my own post to MNHQ twice to try and have it removed, but its still there. Everyone will think Im a bully

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LadyBabsWalthamCuddles · 02/05/2012 01:02

I am going to report it, I just don't know what to put "she wants it deleted" seems a bit silly to me. Tell me what to put and I'll do it.

I haven't read it all but they seem to be quite forgiving after you said you didn't mean it, don't worry

Original poster
thatisall · 02/05/2012 01:04

I just saw that...maybe it'll be ok. Just a bit sensitive I think. Now crying into my wine over job, hubbies business and my stupid Mumsnet mistake . Bloody PMT aswell ha

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geniuswater · 02/05/2012 01:06

I know what post you are on about - I don't think you are a bully, everyone makes mistakes and you have apologised and apologised. It's a terrible terrible thing that is happening but nothing you have done could make it any worse for that poor girl really as you said it is all over the net anyway I can't believe the police aren't doing anything. So sad and scary. Don't fret anymore hopefully mnhq will delete soon. Sorry to hear about your job, sounds like a shitty day, hope things improve v. soon.

LadyBabsWalthamCuddles · 02/05/2012 01:18

Stop crying into wine!

You will make it salty Grin

PMT affects everyone's better judgement, it'll be fine, the best thing you can do is be there for your dh

Original poster
thatisall · 02/05/2012 01:39

Proper shitty day. So weird having to be strong fr dh but needing to cry and be comforted by dh too

lady must stop diluting wine though yes

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LadyBabsWalthamCuddles · 02/05/2012 01:44

You don't need to be strong for him, you just need to look like you are iyswim.

Look like you're ok and in control and then rant away on here. (PM me or someone else if you don't feel like talking about it for the world to see)

iwillnotbetold · 02/05/2012 01:52

Can I just say how lovely it is that you and DH have put your other staff first. Makes you both wonderful people.

Original poster
thatisall · 02/05/2012 01:53

Im just so sad that its all going so wrong for him. He's put everything into this company. We would both be devastated to see anyone else use their job, we really like the people who work for our company. They're our friends.

Aswell as the company Im worried about us, me him and dd. Mine was a modest wage, but without it life will be very different. We're trying to adopt a dc aswell and I now income isn't a deciding factor but stability certainly is.

I know, I really do know, that all will be well. Its just sometimes, the World seems like its just your own little life and its so scary when things go wrong, especially when you know that there's a chance that things are about to get much much worse and for a lot of people too.

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Original poster
thatisall · 02/05/2012 01:56

iwillnotbetold thank you.

We discussed it some time ago, when one or two of our clients started to struggle. Im not the main earner, my dh is. But some of our staff are the main earners in their household.
It's better for us to be a bit 'poorer' than for someone else not to be able to pay the mortgage.

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differentnameforthis · 02/05/2012 02:55

I second iwillnotbetold

I think it is admirable to do this for your staff. It would be easier to keep the money coming into the family, I expect, so you have done a great thing today!

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