nursery and potty training

[mandygj]

just wanted to ask for some advice, my two year old has been potty training for a fortnight now and for the past week she has been dry with no accidents at all, but ive just picked her up from nursery and like last week she has wet herself 3 times!
i asked her key worker if she had asked to go and she said no so i asked her does she know where the toilet is or been taken to it and encouraged to tell her when she needs a pee pee. and she just looked at me and said "i dont know ill go and ask "
are they just being lazy and not following what ive been teaching her, because she wil use the toilet anywhere else!
im a bit mad about it, especially since the nursery staff seem to just be brushing it off,im starting to wonder if they are just ignoring her if shes asked!
i have continually told them shes potty training but she keeps wetting herself there, im taking her back in tomorow for half a day, not sure what i should say or i should speak to them a little more sternly about it.
shes been doinf terrific with the training and even asks for toilet when out at shops etc so i dont see why she would be different at nursery, i understand maybe shes getting a little distracted playing but theres plenty of other distractions outside nursery but they dont stop her.

I might be wrong but I think they are brushing it off because its totally normal for a newly potty trained two year old to have accidents in an outside setting (or even at home but even more so when distracted) and therefore they are barely even registering it as an issue! I picked my daughter (newly trained 2 year old) up from preschool today, collected a bag full of wet clothing (one from garden antics I think but the other, probably not - smells like week, must put wash on ) yet she never has accidents at home. I didn't even ask about it or what happened (she's not my first child!) it just tails off.

Don't worry, she will learn!

Smells like wee, i mean

I had a similar experience, wher my DS will go to the toilet at home but seems to poo in his pants at nursery. I put it down to the fact that firstly he doesn't have anyone's undivided attention and secondly they get so engrossed in things they can forget. Ds1 went through the same when we potty trained him but soon got it and takes himself off to the toilet now. Ds2 still has the odd accident at nursery, also remember that young children sometimes don't realise they need to go until its too late to actually reach the toilet, they will learn the feeling in time.

The only thing I would say is when I took her in after Easter hols (which is when I did her) I sat her on the toilet there each morning when I dropped her off for a week or so to get her in the habit of "going" there - as long as she has succesfully been a few times she knows where it is, and its up to her to go and do it or ask for it, and accidents happening will only reinforce that, not the other way round.

I think nursery is totally different from anywhere else to be honest. My DD was the same, she was great everywhere else except nursery but my best friend worked there at the time and I am 100% sure that they were taking her every so often even if she didn't ask. I would just reiterate to the staff what you are doing and what you expect them to do but don't 'blame' them. They get very engrossed in nursery play.

ah ok i just thought if shes doing it everywhere else why not nursery, but what your saying makes sense, this is my first so not done this before! although im due to give birth to second child in two months so be good to get her trained sooner rather than later.
i was ready for going in guns blazing and blaming them haha but maybe ill just leave it a few weeks and hope it tails off, which im sure it will. thanks x

Tatty I completely agree. It will be a non issue for nursery because they're so used to it.

If I ask 2 yo DD if she needs a wee/poo she says "no". She then takes herself off quite happily to the potty 5 minutes later! You can't make her. Nursery have toilets just off the main room so the children typically take themselves during the day, although they get reminded at snack/meal time or before tehy go out.

She was also dry for about 3 months but since Easter has kept having accidents at nursery and at home. Nursery reassured me it is a phase that toddlers often go through. Once they are dry they are so used to it, they forget to go to the loo or just hold on whilst they are doing an activity and then have an accident.

i think im just a little annoyed because the girl just talked to me like i had two heads, she didnt seem to know anything and dont think she was even aware that shes being toilet trained, even though i remind whoever i drop her off with at the time. i understand what your all saying and it is still a little new i suppose im just proud as punch with her all week and then at nursery i feel really bad for her :( x

Don't feel bad for her and you should still be proud of her, she's doing really well. This is really, really common.