To drop a contact day

[FateLovesTheFearless]

My stbxh and I split ten months ago. He currently has our 4dc every Friday night, Saturday and Sunday, returning them Monday morning. This was because I had a weekend job. He also wanted to take two on a wed night and the other two on the following wed. Alternating between them.

However my 4dc are aged 7,5,3 and two and every Wednesday that he takes two and not the other two there are tears from the two not going and if it's the younger two, they have no concept of going the following Wednesday. I think it's cruel and I want it to stop. He says I am trying to cut his time with them because I am being petty and they are old enough to 'learn'. I absolutely hate seeing the kids upset and think that the whole weekend should be plenty. I hate not getting to see then every weekend but I also have to work. AIBU to stop Wednesday's?

Or why doesn't he just take all 4 of them every other wednesday?

If I am off, I take her, if not my housemate. It's for an hour and just around the corner. I am off this Wednesday so will be taking her. That would be preferable, I also think three nights is plenty.

All four would also be fine but I explained earlier in the thread why he is refusing that. Sorry, I know it's a bit of a muddle.

So basically you are between a rock and a hard place on this one. I am guessing he wouldn't contemplate extending to Tuesday morning instead of Monday? Or by taking one older and one younger at a time?
If he's not paying any heed to you, is there any way he would look at independent research relating to how what he's doing can upset his children?

Hope it gets resolved and please don't feel guilty - you are evidently completely focused on ensuring your DC's have as much happiness and security as they can fit in.