Well now I’m really peeved what a shock indeed!

[Celcius]

Ok! Listen carefully. I will be one of the first to say that the reason I?m on mumsnet is because I don?t have a huge spread sheet of friends in real life. I?m not at all interested in most of the stupid things you lot do o

n mumsnet. I am here to make friends, and so far I have BIG FAT ZERO.
Why? That is the question. Mumsnet is a popular site, and there are billions of people posting all the time. Am I that unattractive that I can?t even get online interactions? And don?t give me that ?everyone is like that online bullshit? excuse, please don?t embarrass yourselves. I?ve heard quite enough of that. Whenever I send people a PM about my penalty points or how my son is lazy I rarely get a response and suddenly the mood darkens and I either get subsequently ignored or made to feel like an idiot.

Please forgive me if I sound bitter, smooth days are hard to come by. But this is a social site. If anyone is interested in being my friend and doesn?t mind me taking charge of the conversation please give me a shot.

Have you been drinking?

You're not suppose to PM people with stuff you could just post in the relevent section.

I don't think that most are looking to make friends, just to nosey into other people's lives and pass time.

Agree with Birds. What I like about mn is that the interaction is in one way a bit more removed than rl friendship and in another more open. I will talk about things on mn that I wont to friends, because I can control and remove myself from the interaction if I want. I find pms often intrude on my space and confuse those boundaries.

I'll be your friend.

I'm utterly normal.

I'm not here to make friends.
And to be honest the few times I have sent pm's it because I felt somebody is in dire need of support, and that I feel I can help.

It would never occur to me to use pm's like that.

The few PMs I have had have either been to ask for specific information that I had or so that someone could say something to me without derailing the thread. I have posters I generally agree with and like but not friends.

Does MN Local do this job never been on it?

Perhaps you should take up an interest in RL where you can make friends ?

I think most people come here to have a passing chat , giggle , or to give or receive support .
I really think you need to address your expectations of the site ...

You sound like a weirdo, I'm not surprised people aren't taking you up on friendship to be honest.

How do you choose to pm by the way ?
( I'm intrigued now ).

I think OP may be being slightly tongue in cheek.....

I think MN is a social site, but that's not quite the same as making friends.

It's like if you dropped into the same cafe every day, you'd have a nice chat with folks, but you wouldn't presume to email them or call them out of the blue.

Just keep chatting on the boards and be patient, I think.

Ah you're probably right lisaro

what are penalty points anyway?

No need to be so horrible to the op.

I think what others say is right, mn is more a bit of fun to put your opinion in sometimes and read others rather than make friends. If you need support it is a good place to come to so just post in a specific subject what you are concerned/upset/interested in and you will find plenty of interaction.

There are places online like mn local and netmums (sorry) do meet-a-mum if you have children? I found it really tough to meet friends when I moved somewhere new so understand how lonely it can feel and everything becomes exaggerated. Do you have any children you can utilise to meet new friends?

You have to post loads, and get to know people. But it can happen. I've made loads of friends from MN, but I've posted most days for a few years now.

I've posted on MN most days for years yet don't know anyone in RL on here. But that's fine. This is an internet forum. If you want real life friends you join a local club or hobby group or do evening classes surely.

YABU OP but I am thinking you're posting tongue in cheek and know all this.