AIBU in thinking that this person is dangerous

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I've know this woman for about a year and recently stopped all contact with her. She started texing the guy I was seeing and he was texting her back. When she finally told me she said some awful things which has really knocked my confidence i.e. "your lover told me he felt sick when you took your clothes off" and "your lover wished he was with me when he was making love to you". I confronted him and he said that he had text her but not said those things (she had made it up) and was sorry... but the damage had been done and I don't believe him. We split up over her.

Since cutting all ties with this woman, and tbh it was very easy as she doesn't have many friends and doesn't mix with my friends, she has now started emailing my friends on fb and is trying to befriend them. I now have 5 friends in common with her and she didn't know them before. I've asked some of them why they accepted her as a friend and they didn't have a clue who she was and just clicked yes.

Today one of my friends told me she had sent them an email asking stuff about me and another friend told me she had said some stuff about me and they had blocked her.

I don't know what to do as she seems hell bent on disrupting my life as much as possible.

AIBU in thinking this woman is dangerous and how do I get her out of my life?

She sounds dangerous. Don't reply to her messages ever, don't even send a smiley face. She will decide that I have to send, 10, 20 messages to get you to reply.
You should read the Book, "The gift of fear" by Gavin De Becker all about people who stalk or kill, and how they do it, what they do, why they do it and best of all how to avoid them and get rid of them without getting hurt.

If you are being bombarded with texts the only way to ge them to stop would be to get the police to block that number with our mobile company which takes a lot of time and usually needs proof of a crime which would be too far down the line to want to be. Or you can change your number and have the hassle of telling all your contacts your new number.

You could try a simple reply to the next text of hers.

Legal Notice* All messages to this number are being monitored.

Tatty- it was his ex.....? but he ended up marrying her....? erm OK. sounds like he was feeding you a both a line.

OP, please do read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. There is a useful chapter on dealing with this kind of stalking behaviour.

It is a good idea to keep records of everything that happens.

Best response is no response. I think you are doing the right thing by warning your friends, but I don't agree that you should close your facebook page because that is a response, and she will then look for other ways to get at you. It may take a while for her to give up but if she never, ever gets a response then she will give up eventually.

I have been stalked by somebody that I now realise was a very dangerous person, and I came through it

Wow I've been off line for sometime as I got fed up with her emails on ebay and hotmail. I got most of my friends to block her. I've blocked her on hotmail and yahoo, but then she kept sending me money request on paypal. I contacted the police and they had a word with her. Thankfully it's been a few days and I've heard nothing. Thank you all for your advice.