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Sats!!!!

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Acer76 · 30/04/2012 19:06

My daughters Sats test start the week commencing 14th May. Her dad has been in hospital since January 2012 and is dying. He is now on The Liverpool Care Pathway, so closure could be anytime now. I really want to know if the Sats examiners would take this into account regarding her results, due to worry, stress and if her dad actually passes away during Sats week. She knows he will not come out of hospital alive, but she has been working hard and keeping very busy. Thanks all.

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SunflowersSmile · 30/04/2012 19:12

I am so sorry that you are having such an awful time.
I would hope that this situation would be taken into consideration. However, if not I am sure the primary could send a covering letter to the secondary school your dd goes to.
You all take care.

Sirzy · 30/04/2012 19:13

I assume the school are already aware of whats going on so I would have a quite word with the school and let them deal with that aspect.

My thoughts are with you all. x

Sarcalogos · 30/04/2012 19:14

I'm sorry, it must be a tough time for you all.

I'm not sure what you are asking though.

I wouldn't worry about the sats, they are not important to your daughters future, just let her concentrate on family things. Any reputable school would tell you the same thing.

SoupDragon · 30/04/2012 19:14

How dreadful for you all.

Speak to your DDs head teacher. I assume they are aware of the situation? It is in their best interests that your DD does well too so I'm sure they will do everything they can.

hockeyforjockeys · 30/04/2012 19:17

Really sorry to hear about your dds dad.

Unfortunately it wouldn't in terms of the official sats results and statistics, if she is absent from school due to her father then she will still be counted.

However her teacher will still give her an assessment level that will be based on what she is actually capable of, not what happens on the day. This will be passed onto secondary, and the school should flag up to them the situation at the time (I'm sure you will be letting them know as well), so if they are any good they will ignore the test result

It sounds harsh but you need to remember that for your dd the test results aren't important, its her teacher's assessment. Don't worry about it and focus on supporting her through this time, and looking after yourself.

diabolo · 30/04/2012 19:18

I'm so sorry Sad

My dad died of cancer in the middle of my O'Levels - it didn't get taken into account Sad

It's only SAT's - it honestly does not matter for her long term future. Her secondary will re-test in September as regards sets etc.

Have some Wine or Brew and some Thanks

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Acer76 · 30/04/2012 21:18

Thanks for the messages. The Sats ARE important to my daughter and also the results as she has worked very hard especially these past few months and kept busy by revising. I am in contact with school regrading her dad's condition. Diabolo, please accept my condolences for the loss of your dad, it must of been so difficult for you :( It's so hard for a child.

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Acepuppets · 30/04/2012 22:39

I am so sorry to hear your news. Maybe your daughter needs something like the SATS to focus on at the moment. You sound as if you are doing all of the right things by keeping in touch with her school.

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Acer76 · 30/04/2012 22:41

I have realised that I should of posted this in Education and not 'am I being unreasonable' Ooopps

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Acer76 · 03/05/2012 14:56

Mt daughters daddy died this morning at 6.40am, I have to tell her when she gets home from school. My tummy is in knots and I can't imagine how she is going to cope with it, she will be distraught :(

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TroublesomeEx · 03/05/2012 15:00

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that. Do you have someone with you?

sugarice · 03/05/2012 15:02

I am so so sorry for your loss Acer.

valiumredhead · 03/05/2012 15:03

Oh good Lord OP, how awful Sad

Please don't worry about the SATS at all, it bears no reference to your child's future whatsoever.

I am so sorry x

CanBeRuthless · 03/05/2012 15:09

Sorry to hear your news, and good luck with your terribly difficult task ahead. If you look at Winston's Wish website, it offers guidance and what to do and say when a child loses a parent.
Don't worry about SATS. They are quite irrelevant in times like this.

jenfraggle · 03/05/2012 15:10

So sorry to hear that, please remember that SATS are meaningless and just another way for the government to waste money. No test can be a substitute for a teacher's knowledge of their pupils' abilities.

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Acer76 · 03/05/2012 15:11

Thank you all for your lovely messages, no, I don't have anyone here. I was caring for my elderly dad this morning when I had a phone call, DD's dad and I weren't a couple anymore ,but very good friends and my DD saw him all the time and we used to take it in turns cooking the Sunday dinner, so DD had a proper family meal with mum and dad together. The last time we were all out together was in August 2011 at a friends wedding.

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