Ok this is the situation. My friend has a reputation for rudeness. She will just suddenly turn on you and be bloody rude. In the past I've ignored it. We do enjoy each others company we walk our dogs together 4-5 times a week and meet for lunch shopping etc. Five weeks ago we were walking the dogs I was feeling very very stressed (I'm usually very chilled) because my mother was critically ill in hospital, she did know this because I told her when we met up, and my mind wasn't on my two dogs who were leads and one ran around the back of my friend and then in front of her and nearly not did trip her up. If she'd fallen she would have fallen onto soft wet grass. I had my mind on other things and was a bit slow to pull him back. She started shouting at me; "For God sake be careful, I hate those flexi leads, I could easily fall and break something" etc. Now because I was feeling mega stressed about my mother I saw red instead of letting it wash over like I normally would I thought about the many many times before that she'd been rude to me and shouted back! Something like "don't speak to me like that you know I'm feeling very stressed today."
We've not spoken since and I keep thinking about the other times she's been rude usually with no provocation (she is well known for this and has even acknowledged it herself) and she's also very critical of me she get annoyed/sulks if I'm a couple of minutes late for a walk e.g. 09.02 instead of 0900 I don't exaggerate but its only a dog walk, she thinks I over prioritise my DC's (she has no children or partner and is in her 50's). But I miss having someone to walk with!
I would like to go and speak to her and say that although I like her and enjoy walking with her on many times I find her exceedingly rude and hurtful and that it upset me and that I really don't want her to keep doing it but would like to make it up. Does this make sense?