To expect a thank you for passing on baby clothes?

[Barbielovesken]

My mum's friend had a baby girl at the end of February. Our dd is 8 months older than her.

I had loads of beautiful baby girl clothes ranging from 0-9 months from dd so rather than give them to charity shop I texted and asked her would she like them. I also had a cradle and a few other items we no longer needed and asked would she like them too. She said yes, she'd love them.

I spent hours here one night washing and drying all the clothes and inspecting them - anything stained etc was chucked out. I arranged them into little bags labelled by age. There was loads of little outfits barely worn and some that still had tags as dd was a big baby and some didn't fit. Next, mothercare, designers at debhanams etc.. Cot sheets/ blankets/ grobags/ vests/ socks/ hats etc

This is her 6th baby and they are on benefits so don't have much money so I was delighted to give them to someone who would appreciate them.

I drove out of my way to drop them off at her husbands parents house (they live far away) for him to bring them home.

That's about 8 weeks ago. She hasn't texted to say she got them/ liked then/ thank you. Nothing.

I'm bringing it up now as I have more clothes as dd has moved out of her 9-12 month things and don't know whether to pass them along to her again. I asked my mum did she know if she received them and she said yes, she got them and would love more :-s

Am I being overly sensitive? I don't expect a banner but a quick text saying thank you would have been nice.

I don't think its being lady bountiful, or doing it just for the thanks to expect someone to thank you for this. Its just manners.

Yes she might have all manner of issues or things going on in her life that you are not aware of but its still rude not to send a quick text / FB message to say thanks. Whatever is going on she is together enough to convey to your mum that she would like more!

in your place I would either contact her on FB and ask if she received them (and decide what to do with the next lot depending on how she replied) or give them to someone else this time. Or sell them on Ebay - for what you are talking about you could make a reasonable amount of money to go towards new clothes for your dd.

If someone had gone to all that effort for me I would say thank you.

I would also buy a card or get the kids to make one and a box of chocolates (even if I didn't have much money I would just spend £2).

Unless something has happened since you gave her the clothes - for example a death in the family, she can't be that busy so she can't say thanks. Like others have said she could even send a Facebook message.

I think you are NOT being unreasonable and you should not give her anything else you have.

It's not hard for her just to text you back - if you texted her initially, she should have your contact. I am a lazy git myself and take forever to get round to doing some things, but in this sort of instance, I'd have been squirming if there was any way of thanking the giver, and if she can't text because she'd lost your details, she could always pass it back via your mum, couldn't she?

You went to a lot of effort. I think that, and your kind thought, needs to be acknowledged. It has nothing to do with feeling entitled to thanks! Plus, I'd add that with baby clothes, there can be a lot of emotions wrapped up with the giving away of your DC's things. I find it very hard myself to get rid of things that I know we won't use again. So yes, another reason why your nice gesture and efforts should be thanked.

(hello Yellow! )

Are you sure she didn't say thanks to your mum and your mum has forgotten to tell you? Otherwise yanbu it's incredibly rude. Whatever is going on in her life a text takes a few seconds.