requesting food and then not eating it

[Aribura]

Let's say you're Polish. (Randomly selected country, not actually the relevant cuisine.) If someone says they really want to try Polish food and then you make a traditional Polish meal for them with lots of different traditional things on a plate, and then they don't even taste most of the things because "we don't have that in my country", "I know I won't like it", "I don't like to try different foods" and "it's all flavourless porridge" when you spent over an hour making it because they asked to try it...

...is it unreasonable to be inwardly hurt a little? Note: said person does not have any allergies or dietary restrictions. Please tell me I'm not going mad in being over this.

YANBU, and your guest ill-mannered.

It's a no brainer isn't it?

Yeah it's not even really an aibu is it? Just an online rant to save myself screaming FFFFFFUUUUUUCCCCKKKKKKKK at full volume.

Pot Noodle?

Next time I'm serving Pom Bears and Fruit Shoots.

thats just plain fucking rude, YANBU

YANBU - how bloody ignorant!

I'd eat your food happily (eyes Aribura hungrily hopefully).

This happened to me with Portuguese friends years ago. I was very upset. YANBU. How rude.

I hate wasted food. Buffets are a cause of great distress to me.

YABU to be inwardly hurt a little. You would NOT be unreasonable to be outwardly, explosively indignant.

That would piss me right off. It has happened to me, although it wasn't something I made. My mother went to great trouble to make some traditional mince pies at Christmas and send them over to Sweden so that my bf and his family could try them. Fair enough, they can be one of those love or hate tastes, but they wouldn't even try one. What's worse is they didn't bother to give them back to me, they just binned them.

And I'm sick of them giving me a funny look when I ask for milk to put in my tea. We've been OVER this! English people have milk in their tea ffs.

YANBU in the slightest, but I always feel sorry for people that are so sheltered that they can't even bring themselves to branch out and try different food. It's their loss.

I hope you pointed them in the direction of the fridge and sat there enjoying the lovely meal you cooked.

I hope you pointed them in the direction of your front door and sat there enjoying the lovely meal you cooked

YANBU for being upset. But you are 'U' for not clarifying what they meant by 'try'. It sounds like they were just being polite in the 'oh we must do that some time'... vague, don't really mean it, just trying to sound cosmopolitan, sort of way. And 'try' probably meant a small taste of something adventurous rather than an entire meal.

What was the relevant cuisine that they'd expressed a desire to try?

If the menu contained such delicacies as sheep's eyes, bulls' bollocks, and suchlike, it may be that they weren't unreasonable in declining to try any of the repast.

Even if I hadn't really meant it when I said 'oh, I must try that sometime', I'd definitely eat whatever was put in front of me at someone else's house (bar allergies), even if they hadn't gone to a lot of trouble to do something so nice for me.

What a lovely person you are, Aribura, so make such an effort for your friend.

My dc do this alot. I assume you're talking about an adult, though?

My guess is that the people in question are the OP's in-laws.

ohh can you post some to me? I LOVE new food!

It's immature and quite self centred to accept an invitation to eat at someone's house then not even try the food. It is just plain rude to make silly and hurtful comments about it. If you can't eat certain foods it is courteous to tell your hosts before they start cooking! you are NBU at all.