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for thinking this isn't why I pay dance class fees

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LisasCat · 29/04/2012 16:44

DD1 (4yo) goes to a weekly dance class, and the cost per class is about £10. She goes because she enjoys dancing and it's a great outlet for her energy, although I'll put aside all maternal adoration and admit we have not produced the next Darcy Bussell! So when letters went home with some of the girls about a month ago, saying they had been invited to take part in medal tests, we weren't surprised or disappointed DD didn't have a letter. Only about a 1/3 of the class did, the teacher handled it very well, as far as I could tell there were no issues amongst the children who didn't have one.

Fast forward one month, and after DD came out of class I asked her what they'd been doing. She said they were watching the medal test group practice their routine. Now I had assumed that as there are 2 teachers, one would work with each group. So I did a little more gentle probing, and from what DD has said, it sounds like a large part of the lesson was spent with the non-medal girls just watching the main teacher work with the medal group, getting their footwork right.

I know there's probably some value to teaching the children how to be an appreciative audience and support their friends, but I also know how difficult it is to keep the attention of a group of 4 yr olds, when they're not actively participating. Am I missing some valuable trick here, about how they were actually learning via observation, or being encouraged to work harder to be selected next time? Because I'm just feeling like it's quite an expensive activity for a small child, and I'd like to think I'm paying for her to be on her feet and moving around for that time.

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Fiendishlie · 29/04/2012 16:47

YANBU. If I were you, I'd be staying to watch the next class and be having very strong words with the teacher if there was watching rather than dancing going on.

curiositykitten · 29/04/2012 16:50

YANBU but I'd speak to the teacher before getting pissed off - 4 year old's have very different judgements on things.

madwomanintheattic · 29/04/2012 16:56

At 4, I don't imagine a large part of the class was spent on the exam routine tbh. Maybe dd imagined it was a hefty percentage because it was the last 5 minutes or whatever? It is reasonable for them to have a little practise and for the other girls to watch, because it gives them an idea of what they will be doing next time. It takes about 3 minutes at that age, iirc!

Most dance schools will have an additional practice for the exam group (or two or three) before the exam, so the lesson time isn't taken up if it is a mixed group.

Ds and dd1 and 2's first dance schools used to move girls forward by 'lines' or rows, so the front row was always the exam group. Once they passed and moved up to the next class, the second row would become the front, and the next exam group etc, so it was their 'turn' to be the priority group. They were always v excited to be in the front row!

At 4 it has v little to do with being the next Darby bussell, tbh!

I like the system where we are now. Classes are either competitive or recreational.

Maybe just clarify with another parent how it works usually before speaking to the teacher - or do it in a v 'what happens with the children who are taken exams this time?' rather than 'dd said....'

Teeb · 29/04/2012 17:07

Yanbu- you aren't paying for your daughter to go to dance classes to subsidise these medals, you're paying for her to do the activity for herself.

If the medal girls needed additional lessons then that should have been as an extra class, it's the way I've known it to work in ballet classes for upcoming exams.

AmandinePoulain · 29/04/2012 17:11

Are there any other classes in your area? I pay £4.50 per week for my 4yo. She enjoys it, they do proper exams in the higher up classes but at this age it's more about having fun - I don't think I've produced a prima ballerina either to be honest but for as long as she enjoys it I'll keep sending her.

HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 29/04/2012 17:13

£10 per lesson!! Gosh that is very pricey

I would do as someone else has suggested and watch the next lesson. I don't think medals at 4 years old is a good idea anyway

rogersmellyonthetelly · 29/04/2012 17:44

I was just about to say for £10 a lesson I would expect them to produce the next Darcy bussel regardless! It's £4 for an hours lesson here, and that's rda. Non rda classes are cheaper still.

vincettenoir · 29/04/2012 18:01

Ynbu. I hope that is the end of the exam prep. What a cheek!

bobbledunk · 29/04/2012 18:40

yanbu, she's there to dance, not watch others practise.

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