To be fucked off with DH

[sasamunde]

Yesterday was DH's birthday, he works away in the week so I have to put kids (5mo and 2.9) to bed by myself, which is hard and usually results in the baby being left to cry for short periods while I e.g. bathe toddler. We went to the pub for dinner for his bday last night, baby woke up and started crying at 8 so MIL and I took the kids home and I put them to bed while he went out drinking. Today we had planned to go out again with his mates for a bday meal and MIL offered to babysit for a bit after, but by 6pm he was still working so I said no, too late for the kids, you go out later as I don't want to go out anyway. 7pm he's still working so I feed and put the kids to bed on my own AGAIN. 8pm I'm still bathing toddler, he calls upstairs, do you want your soup up there? I say no I don't want my effing soup up here, I want some effing help to get these kids into bed and then I want a shower as I havent had time to wash my hair for 4 days. He sulks and says, I guess you won't pack my bags for me then (we are going on holiday tomorrow at 9am). I say no I effing won't. He then has a massive hissy fit strop, wakes up baby packing his bag, cooks tea for himself and goes out, leaving me to tidy house, shower, cook my own tea! I fucking hate him right now. Is this normal behaviour for a father????

YANBU. He's a dickhead.

I hope you didn't really say all those effings.

The dinner situation is just unfortunate, not really his fault. But he could have helped you with the children. Did you ask him previously?

But, expecting you to pack his suitcase for him? Is he 5?

leave the bastard

but no yanbu, he's being a child, and he's going to be mighty p'd off when he has to pack his case with a hangover.

So, he went out for a drink on his birthday. Didn't help feed and put the kids to bed because he was at work. Then offered to bring your soup up?
I can see that things aren't easy for you but I'm not sure he's done anything so bad.
Sounds like you need this holiday.

YANBU. He seems to have forgotten he has DC.

Today we had planned to go out again with his mates for a bday meal and MIL offered to babysit for a bit after, but by 6pm he was still working so I said no, too late for the kids, you go out later as I don't want to go out anyway 7pm he's still working so I feed and put the kids to bed on my own AGAIN

You told him to go out and chose not to go yourself.

Him not being able to help you because he is working how can that been seen as shirking on his part? hes at work!

Hes unreasonable to expect you to pack his bag though.

I'd say give the guy a break. He spends all week away from his family and on his b'day his DW is effing and blinding at him. I'd be miffed too.

If you're unhappy with having the kids solo all week ask him to change or give up his work and re-organize your lifestyle.

YABU I would say..