to be unreasonably annoyed by this?

[delilahbelle]

Tiny problem in the scheme of things, but I'm still very grumpy.

I am buying a house with DH.

I have organised everything pretty much - viewings, appointments with IFA, surveys, payments EVERYTHING.

I made very sure everyone knew I was the one dealing with everything. DH has just handed over the required paperwork and signed what I've asked him to.

So why oh why does the solicitor has DH's name first on correspondence, having sent urgent emails to him that then have to be forwarded to me, and addressed letters to 'Mr and Mrs DH's name', despite being asked not to.

Twats. I am more than my husband's accessory. Now if it had read Mrs and Mr delilahbelle I wouldn't be so annoyed.

Yabu - you can't expect everyone to know how you specifically feel about taking/not taking your husband's name after marriage so they have to have a general formula that works for most people.

The mortgage is the one I hate too. It's a joint mortgage in both our names, and all correspondence is addressed to both us. I'm the one who deals with the mortgage. But when the bank phones, they will only speak with my husband, because his is the first name they've got written down. Fortunately my husband tells them that I am the one who deals with the mortgage and if they're not prepared to discuss the matter with me, then we're not interested. But really?????? In 2012????