to ask a 7 yr old for tea?

[pantshavenames]

for DS obviously, not me (that would be weird). Ds has birthday next week, asked new BF to tea. Have spoken to mum occasionally in playground but not much. Due to crappy weather and everyone hunkering down anonymously in North Face I didn't talk to her face to face but put a note in book bags to invite friend who hasn't been before. then got text requesting pre visit visit with mother to do what I can only assume was some kind of house inspection as she's as little bit funny vis a vis safety.
so genuinely don't know, I kind of figured by 7 could do 2 hours in house with friend but I don't don't do this much due to the fact that I don't like other peoples children am very busy but am I overly relaxed/out of line?

Do you mean his mother wants to come too? Just text her back and tell her she's welcome to catch you at school gates/pop round at X time/come with him to tea whatever suits you That should set her mind at rest - maybe she's a "worrier" and just needs a bit of reassurance or something.

Neither of you BU. If she really doesn't know you, you haven't really chatted much outside school, then I think it's fair enough (although I probably wouldn't do it). Pre visit may just be to feel safe with you, maybe she has some 'issues'. Don't let it bother you. Just help her out this way, make her feel welcome and comfortable and hopefully her ds will feel the same. I doubt it is about safety at this age (like whether you have mines in your garden or anything), but more just about feeling she knows what kind of environment he's going into.

Or maybe her son is a "worrier", and has demanded she go with him the first time?

Of course YANBU but I don't think shes BU either (sounds like you dont know each other and shes never seen your house) to check if you have any vicious dogs or similar...

It was definately about her coming to check out the environment, rather than her son being anxious (based on what she said). maybe I should have asked her to bring him round so she could scope out the place rather than me take child from school without her seeing where he was going? I was so looking forward to DS having social life that didn't involve me being... you know...social.. that I maybe jumped the gun a bit.

I've never come across this situation.
My dc have always gone to tea without me checking the environment and I've never had parents check my house out before their kids to tea here. Sounds very odd.
Nowadays I seem to have a constant stream of unknown kids through my house all the time. It's great