This is not up for negociation; IABU & I don't care

[KatyMac]

DD is doing a show tomorrow (we had very short notice)

Letter says they leave school at 3:10 to rehearse

DD (14) announces tonight that actually they are leaving at 2:00

I am cross because:

1. they shouldn't just take her out of school without informing me properly
2. she is missing a GCSE class & I get a bollocking if I need to take her out during GCSE work
3. they should really know what they are doing before the day before
4. it's awfully short notice for a show anyway; I only got the letter last week (Thursday)

You see I am aren't I? So there!

Sorry, YANBU.

Who is she doing a show for? With that level of notice, I'd be inclined to say she can't do the show, rather than miss school.

School

Who are 'they'?

Write back and say of course she can leave early, just as long as it doesn't interfere with her ther class because obviously all the teachers concerned have agreed to the times etc.

'They' are School; I told you IWBU

Personally, I'd say that sufficient notice was given. If you wanted to kick up a fuss, why not last week?

I didn't kick up a fuss last week; I cancelled all her classes for tomorrow night

But the changing the time today to miss a class just made me cross combined with the no formal notification

They don't have my permission to take her out at that time

Told you Iabu

But I'm just grouty tonight

well actually YANBU if she misses some CGSE course at this time of the year.

Hide, Pitch!!!

And what's 'grouty'? Does that mean you live between bathroom tiles, OP?

Negotiation

Grouty means grumpy & bad-tempered when I use it & I am in the mood to argue about that too

GCSE isn't until next year; it's just a comment that get repeated every time she needs time off (hospital, GP etc)

Well in that case, I agree with you YABU lol!

I doubt the teachers have oked this with the GCSE class - this will be a classic dd gets into trouble as she missed school and then probably will get detention from the teachers who's class she will miss in the afternoon.

You could write back and refuse permission for her to miss a gcse class as it is not appropriate and the LEA will nto be happy with this class being missed....

OP, I think 'grouty' is a great word for grumpy and bad-tempered, but that is because our bathroom is desperately in need of a full refit (happening this summer) and so our grout is kind of in that state anyway. Sorry to be saying YANBU again, I am about to upgrade to a flame-proof shelter.

Your school sounds like a PITA, everything to suit them but when your DD is genuinely ill they're difficult about it. YANBU yet again. .

Well I might - if I'd been asked; but all I have is DD's word that the rehearsal has been moved

I made her email her dance teacher & ask that she emailed me