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Buying DD 'boys' pants?

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AvocadoAndFitch · 25/04/2012 19:41

DD2 is nearly 3 and prefers playing with boys at nursery and doing 'boy' things.

She loves the colour blue, fireman Sam and postman pat.

She has many medical issues and is in her own world most of the time.

Took her clothes shopping today. We regularly buy her clothes from the boy range. DP is happy with this and it makes DD2 very happy, although she also wears 'girl' clothes.

She needed some more pants, the most suitable ones for her were red and blue toy story ones in a pack. so, I brought them.

DP isn't happy, he thinks a girl should not have 'boys' pants, no matter now much she likes them.

AIBU to buy them? DP has agreed to let her keep them as long as I promise not to let her wear them at nursery or to the hospital trips. But I'm not planning on restricting when she wears them.

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 25/04/2012 21:44

My DD had to borrow a pair of DS underpants once when we were on holiday (caravan so didn't want to waste my time at the laundrette. I bought her a fresh pack from Woolies)

DS grudgingly allowed his little sister to borrow his drawers but insisted he didn't want them back Grin
Girl Germs y'know Wink

Tiddlyompompom · 25/04/2012 21:45

YANBU and your DP is being an overthinking plonker, with his "what will the neighbours think" attitude to toddler pants! Honestly, 2yo's are too young to have those kind of adult neuroses foisted upon them.

However... My mum used to buy me boys pants as she hated the pastel/floral girls ones, so she got me the red/green/blue boys ones, completely ignoring the fact that by age 8 (yes, eight) there is a difference in cut between boy and girl pants - I had a big baggy ball-free pouch in the front and was not happy, I wanted my girls pants back! Grin

moreyear · 25/04/2012 22:00

I buy DS 16months 'girls' cardigans in grey, navy and red all the time because I love cardigans and can never find any nice ones in the 'boys' section. He also wears big thick wool tights beneath his shorts if it is a cold day - he looks adorable. Some people tell me what a pretty girl he is. It always makes me laugh because he is beautiful but most definitely looks like a wee boy :) Oh and yesterday his fringe got a little long so I stuck a plain clip in it to keep it out of his eyes - DP was initially a bit Shock but soon admitted it was very practical. I can't believe people worry about things like this unless it is upsetting the child/making them feel uncomfortable.

Pozzled · 25/04/2012 22:08

YANBU. My 3 year old DD1 prefers 'boy' clothes, and has a set of Thomas pants, and another set of George Pig ones. She likes them, no one else cares- why would they?

trinitybleu · 25/04/2012 22:30

YANBU. DD had Fireman Sam and Toy Story "boy" pants and loved them. She was 3 and knew they were "boy" pants and didn't care one jot

Wish she still wore them now. Am sick of pink and Disney Princess everything!

She has also had "boy" Thomas, Shaun the Sheep, Land Rover, Fireman Sam and George Pig t-shirts, jammies and vests at various times. Loved them all.

startail · 25/04/2012 22:31

YANBU

My 11yo DD2, however is!

She refuses to have plain white trainer socks from the boys section of M&S.

Why, she wants plain ones with no frills or pink bits, but no they can't be boys ones.

I wouldn't mind, but this is the same girl who frequently drives a remote controlled car into your ankles and plays rugby.

pigletmania · 25/04/2012 22:41

Of course why not. I think that I posted a similar thread when trying to tt dd at 3. She loves postman at so bought her postman pat and Thomas the Tank Engine Pants, and they worked

minimisschief · 26/04/2012 01:01

to whoever said there is no difference between shape at that age i have to disagree. stuck some girls trousers on our son once. definitely not designed right.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 26/04/2012 01:36

Just roll your eyes at him and shake your head Grin Muppet!

SecrectFarleysNibbler · 26/04/2012 03:13

I buy my DD (6mth) stuff from the boys section all the time as I CAN NOT STAND the pink crap!! Sometimes she is mistaken for a boy due to lack of pink- " what a lovely baby! What's his name?" I smile sweetly and say " Oliver" and carry on! It's just easier than explaining. I get really wound up by the whole girly pink thing - some retailers should be thoughly ashamed of the girls ranges they sell that are just a sea of ' pretty in pink'. Pink does stink!

GwendolineMaryLacey · 26/04/2012 03:57

Just out of interest, why are girl pants flimsy and boy pants thicker material with a proper big waistband? I've always wondered this.

And YANBU btw. Who cares what undies a child has. I have never thought to look at boys' ones though. Wonder if anyone does Tree Fu Tom or Mike the Knight...?

pigletmania · 26/04/2012 08:00

i prefer the quality and shape of boys pants for dd, the girls ones are flimsy and small even when i buy the bigger sizes, why is that Hmm

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 26/04/2012 08:15

SecretFarleysNibbler- I was very anti-pink when I had DD and I bought her baby clothes in white,lemon,peach colours.
I especially hated the Barbara Cartland/Bubblegum/Barbie Pink. Guess what colour clothes my MIL sent? Hmm

Fast forward a few years, DD is nearly 10yo so chooses alot of her own clothes. My washing machine is full of little pink clothes.
I knew the battle was lost when I bought her a big bath sheet towel (she was 2yo) and tried to steer her towards the lilac and purple.
No,it had to be fuschia-no other shade.
She still has the towel, eight years on.

Pompoko · 26/04/2012 08:18

Boy pants are the best for accidents. The elastic on the legs stops the poo escaping down their legs

DilysPrice · 26/04/2012 08:31

Actually I think your DH's reasoning is the only one that I might possibly accept as valid - to an ignorant observer (and, sadly, your DD's pants will be seen by more than the usual number of strangers) it might make you look a bit slapdash. I'd be inclined to stick with his preference of not using them for hospital visits - he's as entitled to his views on this stuff as you are. .It's a pretty trivial issue though.

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AvocadoAndFitch · 26/04/2012 08:33

Well she choose them this morning. DP looked Hmm as she had a hospital visit this afternoon (as if pants put on a 7am will make it to 2pm)

I said 'well I did look for some thick, blue, toy story, girls pants but they don't seem to make them' and took hi

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AvocadoAndFitch · 26/04/2012 08:38

Posted too soon
And asked him to keep a look out for blue toys story girls pants and then I would replace these boy ones.

His argument hasn't moved on from 'they are boys and and she's a girl' its like banging my head against a brick wall.

Thanks for proving he needs to get over it. She will remain in her 'boy pants' for as long as she wants.

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Mrsjay · 26/04/2012 09:30

Dont see the problem tbh dd1 was into boythings and would wear tohmas the tank engine clothes when she was a toddler young child , I wish they would do pants and vests in girl shaped pants IYSWIM , but wearing boy pants is fine no biggie really ,

Mrsjay · 26/04/2012 09:30

thomas*

HybridTheory · 26/04/2012 19:36

I'd be inclined to stick with his preference of not using them for hospital visits

I remember taking my few week old baby girl for a weigh in/check and undoing her (fairly neutral) babygro to show a lovely blue vest with "Baby Boy" emblazoned across the chest! Gave the Health Visitors a laugh :)

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